I don't want to care about this!
But for now, I hear snapping yourself wih a rubber band is effective in switching your brain around. Get yourself busy with something- read to the kids, play a game, bake cookies, go for a walk- anything to get your mmind on something healthy.
And hang in there. Indifference is your goal, but I know it can take a long time for some to get there. Keep posting here, call a friend IRL, and in time it will get less and less.
Those thoughts do go away eventually. Invest in a good counsellor. Find a support group. Do whatever you can to heal YOU, and those thoughts will no longer matter. Your EX will no longer matter.
Finally divorced Jul/17
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous!
Then I took all the copies and the photos of all his toys - sailboat, 4 wheeler, snowmobile, tons of tools, etc. to my lawyer. I figured he already hated me so what did I have to lose?
Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. I was so meek and mild, we never fought. He'd never dream I'd do that.
Oh I also went into his computer where the stupid bastard had saved her emails.
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It used to feel very acute when he drove off after leaving DD after a visit, but now I do what I can to drive out the sound and never, ever watch the vehicles drive away because that's where he was going. Do you know, he used to actually toot the horn?
One thing I never do is contact him and the other thing I never do is act interested in himself or his life. Pretending that you don't care can be a start and show detachment before you feel it.
I'm sorry for your pain and hope it will get better soon.
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.
It was a difficult time to get thru, somehow you do get through. It does get better with time.
Do what you can to be kind to yourself, hobbies were hard for me -a lot of mine were tied up with XH. I had to find new ones that didn't remind me of him. I also cleaned in the middle of the night.
Hugs, you WILL get thru this. We are here for you.