well, you are right...verizon and most of the cell phone companies will not give you access to what was actually said on the texts. that is correct.
but the phone records will reveal when, and to whom the text were sent. it will also show you a detailed account of all of the incoming and outgoing calls...the length the calls, and when they were made. it is very revealing. and a wayward....so close to dday, must be required to provide access to those phone records to ensure complete transparency. if all of the communications with the ow are old...great...you will not be surprised...but let it all be out in the open.
no secrets. if everything he is saying is 100% legit, then he will not mind at all providing you with access to those phone bills, or online password to the call detail.
i am saying this because so many people on SI told me this...and i didnt make it a require to r. i didnt see the need. i made a lot of excuses on why it was okay not to get them. it was sad. i wasnt ready to be strong.
9 months later i found out i was in false r. he was still cheating. if i had those records, i would have discovered the truth. and him not giving them to me when i asked for them should have been a red flag. but it wasnt. i was too afraid of losing him.
big mistake. what i realized from SI is that i had to risk losing him by being firm on my r requirements if i had any chance of a healthy, transparent m.
have you asked him pointblank for the phone records?
his answer will be either he will grant YOU access to the phone call detail, or he wont. and if he doesnt for any reason...and i mean any reason...then you know he is not sincere.
unfortunately, it really is that simple when it comes to transparency.
a wise SIer once told me..."either he will or he wont. and do you really want to r with someone who wont?"
[This message edited by sri624 at 6:10 PM, September 2nd (Monday)]