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Default  Posted: 7:17 AM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In the movie, a friend is making sexual advancement towards the wife (played by Oprah Winfrey) and she replies "I cannot do that to Cecil (her husband)" and told him to get out of her house. The friend was persistent and she told him to get out, now.

Unfortunately, my stbxww did not have that same conviction and chose to betrrya me. The M in the movie was not perfect. They had issues as we did in ours. And there was attraction to the friend. But the wife understood the meaning of love.

It seems that 80+% of movies have some form of infidelity in them and I find that it tarnishes the enjoyment of the movie for me just as this minor scene which had no relevance to the story line did. I think I will stick with plays in the future.


BH (me, 50)
WS (her, 48)
3 wonderful teens
Heading for Happiness

Posts: 413 | Registered: Sep 2011
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Default  Posted: 8:12 AM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry that the movie got ruined for you or at least was made less enjoyable. I posted here awhile back about how everywhere you turn there is infidelity or at least inappropriate behaviors shown on TV and then there's music too. It's hard not to feel bombarded by it all.
I'm telling myself that I will get less sensitive to it as time goes on but who knows.

Me - 40
WH - 42
Married 18 years
kids - 14, 12
DD - May 13, 2013
DD2 - Aug 4, 2013
DD3 - Aug 27, 2013
Status - Legally separated; really wanted R but don't think that is possible anymore

Posts: 103 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Southern Indiana
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Default  Posted: 9:36 AM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

in the movie the characters were already screwing-and she was calling a halt to continuing

remarried 11-15-15

Her prize is a man who ran out on his wife and children. His is a woman who is too stupid to understand that she is not special, she is simply there.

Posts: 1784 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: Clover, SC
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Default  Posted: 3:53 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Saw this today- my WH cried silently along with me in the theatre. It touched me on many levels.

Me- 40
Him- 47
March 9, 2013- the day my heart died

Posts: 282 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Canada
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