So my ex wife walks around my kids with this complete unhappiness while we are together. I'm sure she has conversations with other adults that my kids overhear as to how unhappy she is. Who does she tell? Her acunpturists, a friend she know of 6 years --- these are the ones who I know about because they testified in court.
But does the unhappy wife tell her husband of 22 years? Nah
Does the husband approach her numerous times throughout the marriage stating you seem unhappy in our marriage what's going on? Wife never responds. Instead gives answers like its a figment of my imagination.
Then I discover the truth. She's been unfaithful while I support her as a stay at home mom. I even gave more space but all that did was give her more opportunity to become more unfaithful.
So I say enough. I can't continue to financially support you while you are having these flings. Let's call it quits and do what's right.
Well she doesn't like that. She wants to keep it like it is. Me support her financially while she lives in 5 bedroom house with my kids and be free to do her thing.
Politely I note come on I've been faithful to you for 22+ years. I always provided for you. Never been abusive. You can't possibly think we end it like so.
So now the domineering angry wife tries to make it difficult for me.
Now the kids are walking around saying WE have to be happy!!!
In essence they want me out of house so THEY (my kids and ex) can be happy.
But wait. The kids never had a problem with daddy. Daddy was always there. Daddy always provided. Daddy was never abusive.
Now the kids are walking around saying WE are in the process of divorcing him!!!
Now the kids are 2 early teens and a 9 year old. They are confused. The teens are angered. And the 9 year old is scared and confused.
The teens consider me a monster and want nothing to do with me. The 9 year old cant figure why can't I have more time w dad?
The advice I get is that the kids will come around. When they get older they will see their mother for who she is. Yeah I get it. But she's extremely clever. I see her working on my children hard to the point when they do understand the truth it won't matter. I will be a stranger to them.
Yes I know I must have faith and never give up which I won't. But it's so amazing that a man having sex with my ex wife and my ex wife inviting this can just tear at a family.
Man, I'm the bad guy to my kids because my ex wife commits adultery and I don't condone it