Take responsibility for their actions, or just Waywards? A or non-A related make a difference?
These question have been in the back of my mind quite a bit lately (i am hypersensitive to "owning my choices") and I thought I would toss it out there for comments.
Here are a couple of scenarios for examples.
1) (A-related) My BH's livelihood was threatened by someone who was not in any way impacted by my A. She didn't like me because I had an A (fine, a consequence I deserve) so she turns around and tries to destroy my BH's business. Is this person's behavior (reaction?) my responsibility to own, as it is related to my A, or are the actions she took her responsibility?
2) (not A-related) A person makes a choice to do something that ends up being very time consuming. Person becomes very dissatisfied with amount of time this activity requires, but instead of making changes within their control to mitigate the time requirements, person just complains, doesn't make changes, doesn't ask for help. Person insists they have "no choice" in the situation and just has to wait it out for it to get better.
I don't understand this. Person is making the choice every day to live with the current situation, even though it is completely within their control to change. Is it wrong to feel like this person needs to own their choices at this point?
Thanks for your thoughts/comments.