JMO...but a truly remorseful, truly transparent, truly committed to building a future WS would NOT voice their frustrations in this way...and would do whatever it takes to prove to you that the A really is over. They would be an open book...giving you access to anything, anywhere, anytime, no questions asked. ESPECIALLY after a false R. Thats when a truly committed WS steps it up. Thats when they go above and beyond to address your fears and provide you with whatever comfort they can...be it a shoulder, searching thru phones, emails...whatever it takes to make you feel safe.
you have every right to feel the way you do for as long as you need to. Saying all the right things is meaningless unless there are solid, consistent ACTIONS to back it up. Dont neglect your feelings, and dont feel pressured into moving faster than you can. Allow yourself the time to work thru and process everything. Do what feels right to you.
hugs to you