Ever since WH has gone NC (as far as I can tell) this last time, OW has increased her cyber stalking of us.
She created a Linkedin account and has been creeping my WH's account. Her Twitter account had been private but she since opened it up in the hopes of WH reading it, I'm sure. She sent me an email playing the victim and blaming me for the end of her marriage because I contacted her BH. She created a Pinterest account and has been looking at my pins and pinning things hoping I will see them. Quotes such as "Don't keep calm, slap that bitch hard" and "A relationship without trust is like a car without gas, you can stay in it all you want but it won't go anywhere" and "Revenge, nah. I'm too lazy. I'm going to sit here and let Karma fuck you up." etc, etc.
Anyway, I would never have known she was stalking my pins except she must have hit follow on one of my boards by accident or she did it on purpose to let me know she was out there in Pinterestland. I got a notification that she is following a board that I created for websites to check out.
So here is where I could mess with her head if I wanted to. I would love to pin a bunch of websites so she would see all the ones I pinned on her homepage. I would love to flood her homepage with all my pins for websites about cheaters, etc. What are some good websites that would really make her go "hmmm"?
As I said, I probably won't do it because I also have other friends on pinterest that would see my pins that have no idea what is going on. It's mostly just a fantasy thing.
Finally fealing peace.
The biggest way to piss them off is to cut off the feed. I know I know, "Why should I have to give pinterest/facebook/twitter up?" Well, depending on how much of your life these things actually take up it can be quite freeing.
I axed pinterest and LinkedIn because COW was using them to keep her name under our noses.
She is playing YOU. She is doing this to drive YOU crazy, and it's working because you are spending time and energy thinking about her.
Even if you tell yourself you're keeping it to fantasy, you are giving her a place in your marriage by thinking about her whatsoever.
Nothing hurts them more than being on the outside of a brick wall. Please believe this.
She wins if you spend a second thinking about her instead of your marriage.
(((changedforlife)))
HOWEVER, I can certainly see the entertainment value in creating dream vacation or wedding vow renewal Pinterest boards. You know. Because it's fun.
(If you are going on a dream vacation or planning renewal, by all means do these things. But do it for YOU, not with the idea that it will give you any real sense of satisfaction vis-a-vis OW.
Because really, she doesn't care about you. At all.)
I love screwing her with happiness :o)
T
Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!
Jrazz - Logically, I know what you are saying is true. But since I will be thinking about her anytime I think of the A which is still the majority of the day, I would prefer to think about making her life hell. Maybe in time that will change... BTW, we have given up some online things but WH has to maintain some through work but I have the passwords to check on them.
I do love the ideas for posting vacation and wedding vow renewal pins. WH and I never actually got married due to finances, etc. so a board with eloping ideas would be fun - (NOT VEGAS!) Those ideas put a smile on my face!
TxsT - I love it!
I'm not judging at all, I'm just remembering my boot-camp training to true happiness and trying to plant the seed.
I think for me, the OM I rather him wonder. Wonder if he destroyed a home, wonder if we both hate him, wonder if he even mattered to us both. I think that to me is more disturbing to him since I know him. If he saw a photo of FWW and I together happy, he would probably be happy for us and feel like he really didn't do much damage after all. Not gonna give him the satisfaction.
Thanks for the laughs and support!
PS. Now I'd love to find an ecard that says "Caught you stalking me! Now FUCK OFF!"
