My situation is a little different, but I did talk to the OW's Husband. THe OW was married, but in an OPEN relationship. The H of OW was a pompous, selfish, pseudo- intellectual narcissist arse.
He wanted to tell me the whole story about how it took years to evolve to the enlightenment of what joy and fulfillment an open marriage could bring. And, you know, he didn't expect me to even understand it...because I was just the stupid wife who knew nothing of it.
So, he supported his wife falling in love with another man. But he did have a problem with her having an affair with a married man, because that is against the rules in open marraige. Apparently, there are rules, and you are supposed to only mess around with other open marriage people not singles or cheaters- too messy I guess.
So this high minded ARSEhole was a collaborator in this 16 month affair. He knew EVERYTHING about me and my family. He helped his W/the OW accidentally "run into" my husband and kids at a restuarant so she could meet them.
How messed up is this dude that he wanted his wife to fall in love. APparently, he had done it a few years ago and it really hurt her, so he wanted her to know what it felt like. and he supported her. He was friends with my H, they hung out and watched football after my H banged his wife. Maybe they compared notes. Gross!
He left her once my H and his W got too out of control in love and he became second fiddle. "He became the priority so I had to leave her...they are going to be together and you have to come to peace with that"
He just wanted to talk and talk and talk. I got to the point where I almost threw up.
I did text him once since then, and he kind of blew me off telling me that he has his own divorce to deal with and while he understands I may be hurt (ya think?) he needs to move on to a more positive life and avoid toxicity and anger to find peace.
What a selfish dick. I told him, you are just like them, and I hope you too get what you deserve.
I think if the other BS was a normal human person who was an innocent, it might be nice to talk and have the support- but it could get wierd pretty fast I imagine....