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User Topic: why I keep feeling like i want to contact ow
♀ 39802
Member # 39802
Default  Posted: 7:53 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know, I know everyone on here says don't do it. But, you see, I contacted her 3 times. the first was a text that just said, stop texting my H, then again a month later, then again I saw an email and I wrote back to her "please stop contacting my husband or i will have to contact your husband". well, she went ballistic according to H. But she wrote me an email back. H intercepted it and deleted t before i even saw it. I feel like I was cheated out of a chance to respond back. Whatever she said--I have no idea and I just want to give my chance to respond.

This is the email I found months later written by H

"Your response was kind to (ionly...) I saw nothing wrong with it. You spoke the truth. Jealousy kills. That is what this is because she KNOWS **OUR** history. IF it were any other woman, she would not likely care. So I can only apologize. You HAVE been a great friend to me the last 1-2 months. And I HOPE I have been to you. I'm still here. Just missing you more. I miss you (pet names for ow)"

it just irks me to no end that I didn't get my chance to respond back to whatever she said. i found this email 8 months ago and i still think of it everyday. OW probably thinks i am wimp and backed down. and got scared of her--no I am not scared of her, I just want to destroy her....oh that's right, I am just "jealous".as far as I know there hasn't been any contact on either part since 3 months but I am still obsessing about contacting her one last time.

Posts: 309 | Registered: Jul 2013
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Default  Posted: 8:22 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Other than thinking youre interfering in her "relationship" she doesnt think of you much if at all. What she thinks of you doesnt matter because she is a bottom feeder.

Im sorry over your husbands reaponse to that skag. The focus should be how youre going to deal with your husbands behavior not the thought process of the ow

Do tell her h. He does deserve to know his wife has stepped out

Time to be my own bff.

Posts: 9311 | Registered: Sep 2007 | From: NJ
♀ 35812
Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 9:42 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Let her husband know what OW has been up to, block her, and then take your WH to task for his totally betraying email to her. She is not your problem, as much as I can well understand your desire to confront her. Your WH is your problem and the person that you should b e focused on. (((hugs)))

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

Posts: 9926 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
♀ 36976
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Default  Posted: 11:14 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wouldn't be able to sleep if that were the last contact with OW. I agree you should contact her BH, that is just for his sake BUT I also think your WH needs a final contact (I wouldn't care if it were two years! ) with OW. Something like, I have had time to think about the affair I had with you and I am nothing but ashamed with myself and disgusted with you. I want you to know that I never want to hear from you again. I can't believe I was ever such a loser that I would have had any kind of relationship with you.

Everyone else will tell you just to ignore her. Me? I'd want to scorch the earth.

Posts: 870 | Registered: Sep 2012
♀ 38391
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Default  Posted: 11:38 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah, I can definitely see why after reading that response. That would drive me batty thinking that he left her with those impressions.

The problem is that it would do no good. She would love nothing more than to think she is still part of the "story" and contacting her will make her think that. No matter what either of you say to her she will likely be able to twist it around to that interpretation.

I hope your WH is doing some serious work. That email would haunt me too.

D-Day 11/15/12
5 month PA
Married 20 years, 3 kids
All good is hard. All evil is easy. Dying, losing, cheating, and mediocrity is easy. Stay away from easy.
- Scott Alexander
It was the day I thought I'd never get through - Daughtry

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