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User Topic: Wedding anniversary went well
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Default  Posted: 8:29 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I posted this in my topic worrying about our anniversary reposting here for those who like positive stories...

Hi, I haven't felt up to checking in but just wanted to thank people for their advice and comfort.
It actually went really well- I've had an absolutely lovely few days. It's our paper anniversary and he made me a lovely card, with strips of paper and a memory written on each one. I am writing him a letter but not finished it- I didn't want to get a present, just in case.

He surprised me the night before our anniversary with dinner, then the next day we went to a football match and then in the evening he'd set up 2 things and I could pick. We went to see a play outdoors, and it was lovely. We drank the bottle of the champagne we were given on our wedding day.

The A has come up and not been glossed over, but not hurt too much. I really do think he is completely remorseful and he thanked me often for still being here and giving him another chance (after a bad night on Wednesday where he told me he felt hopeless sometimes and didn't know how to cope with what he'd done) and saying he had learned a lot. He has been lovely, and I've been returning his love and affection.

I guess my wedding present was putting our photos back up. When he walked out and told he had cheated, my friend came round and sat with me. I had a college of our wedding photos on our wall, surrounded by stars. While I was (finally) sleeping, she took them down (I asked her to) and rearranged the stars in a smiley face. I left the stars as they were but put the photos back up as a gesture. And they don't hurt so much anymore. I am healing.

Off to Paris for my birthday on Tuesday :)

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Default  Posted: 8:54 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love positive R stories!

I'm glad your anniversary went well!

“Empathy has no script. There is no right way or wrong way to do it. It’s simply listening, holding space, withholding judgment, emotionally connecting, and communicating that incredibly healing message of “you’re not alone.” ~ Brene Brown

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