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User Topic: Watched my wedding tape
click4it
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Default  Posted: 11:08 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why the heck would I want to do that you might ask?

Well, Sunday was a day that I went through my father's things - to look for a document my uncle had asked me to look for. My mom said "don't do it" and tell him you couldn't find it. I said no, I will be fine.

But of course moms are usually right.

I cried for a good part of the day. Anyway, in the process I found my wedding tape that my Dad had a copy of. I had been looking for tapes that would have my father in them and here was one right in my hands....

I debated on whether or not watch it and decided to go for it. I did get to see my father and hear a little bit of his voice, not much though and that was disappointing.

What I noticed was that I cried more at seeing my father and had very few feelings of seeing my ex-h. Yes, I was in awe of how young I looked and how it was the promise a "new chapter" in my life. I saw how secure I looked and remember how it felt. I saw how skinny I once was.

I hadn't watched that tape since 1995 - the year I got married.


Me: 42
Two boys: 17 and 14
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


Posts: 25628 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
Jrazz
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Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 11:11 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((clicky)))


"Welcome the rawness of vulnerability as an opportunity to open." - Pema Chodron

Me: BW 35
Crazz: WH 33
Daughter: 4.5 Going on 16


Posts: 18703 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
persevere
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Member # 31468
Default  Posted: 11:41 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That would be tough for any of us. ((Hugs)) :


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4715 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
gma56
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Member # 19595
Default  Posted: 12:05 AM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I knew I was going to be OK when I went though all the wedding pictures and saved items, dress included, I was OK.
I too have a few special people in the pictures that have since past. Those are the ones I kept.
Hugs Click4it. I've lost both of my parents years ago but I grab and hold the memories dearly.


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20387 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..
click4it
♀ 209
Member # 209
Default  Posted: 1:29 AM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

jrazz, preserve and gma ty for the hugs.

gma i'm so sorry... (((((hugs back)))))


Me: 42
Two boys: 17 and 14
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


Posts: 25628 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
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