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Not even if she's wearing a loose flowing shirt, or you think her face is "glowing."

Because maybe she's already feeling like a fucking heifer, and tracking her calories and sore from working out and just trying to get a damn drink of water in the breakroom. And that doesn't really help when she already felt like weeping when she got on the scale this morning.

If you're not SURE don't ASK.

And the answer is NO.

We used to have a receptionist that worked in my office who kept asking women that. Sometimes she would ask the same women repeatedly if they were. One day, one of those women (who'd given birth to twins the year before and had brought them in for a vist) said "No, I'm not pregnant. I gave birth a year ago as you can tell by the two children you see in front of you". The women then said "Oh, having a little trouble losing that baby weight are you?"

She wasn't the brightest bunny in the forest.

((((Jana))))

I'm just . . . between her and the woman I posted about a while back who told me I was big-boned, I feel like hiding in my cubicle. I would NEVER ask a woman that unless she was either crowning or holding a positive pregnancy test.

My sister is so shy and sweet and that hurt her so much. I am not shy, or particularly sweet and have no problem telling an asshat where to go. I sooooo wish I had been there.

Jana.. people do it to make themselves feel better I am sure.

That being said, it's complete idiocy that anyone would ask a woman that. I don't care if she's 9 months out and the trademark basketball shape is practically spelling out pregnant. You JUST. DO. NOT. EVER. ASSUME.

Jana, you're adorable. I wanna punch whomever this classless dousche is. People are just dumb sometimes.

(((JanaGreen)))

When I was pregnant with my DD, per my doctor, my stomach had turned to muscle. It's been very hard to loose. I've lost some of my stomach but not much.

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K

I had assumed this lady at my school was pregnant and asked when she was due. She wasn't. I was mortified. I didn't think she was fat, nor ugly, just thought she was expecting.

Never ever again will I assume or even ask.

I have the hugest belly that makes me look like i'm at least 4 or 5 months pregnant if I don't try to hide it so I can imagine how many people think I'm expecting.

Oh Jana, screw her. Maybe the response is, "No, are you always this rude?"

You know I think you are gorgeous.

FTB!

I was all belly, and with DD I showed pretty much right away. I got...."Are you sure you are not having TWINS"...."When is your due date again, cause you look like you are ready to pop (at 5 months along)"....."Gosh, that's going to be a big baby. (both were 8 pounds)"....

I hated being pregnant to begin with. Being made to feel like a circus freak or a fat cow just made it all the better

You should never ask a woman if she's pregnant.

You have to actually TELL people that???

Well, I had just gotten back from running in the 85 degree heat and million percent humidity, taken a hot shower, and not reapplied any make-up. So possibly I was "glowing"

I did have on a loose shirt, one that I wore when I was pregnant with my daughter. Not maternity but works as a mat shirt.

So I'm laughing it off today. I know she felt awful after saying it.

I had another coworker ask me this a long time ago, before I had my daughter. I was wearing a shirt that completely looked like a maternity shirt. At that time I really did laugh about it and it didn't make me feel bad at all - but I weighed almost 30 pounds less then, and I had just finished training for and running a half marathon. I was in the best shape of my life and that comment rolled off my back. So my response yesterday is completely about how I feel about myself, and not what she said. You know?

But yeah, I'd NEVER say that to someone unless I one thousand percent KNEW.

Some people are ignorant and if you could slap the stupid out of them, I would be there to hold your earrings.

I get it, i'm not little. And, I have a fondness for high-waisted, long dresses, to hide my ridiculous hips...but, apparently, that then makes me look pregnant.

Luckily, it has only happened that once. But, I certainly learned my lesson and have never asked anyone else unless.

A coworker (I don't remember who I was pregnant with) asked me where I got my maternity clothes since I was the same size as her daughter who was also pregnant. The daughter came in one day and she was 6 feet tall (I'm 5'4" on a good day) and at least 100 pounds heavier than me! That one made my jaw drop.