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HFSSC (original poster member #33338) posted at 11:23 PM on Tuesday, September 3rd, 2013
Tomorrow, when I wake up, it will be 5 years of sobriety for me. So today is 1,825 days.
It took me 12 years of in-and-out, half-assed efforts (court ordered and/or state board-ordered) to manage to put together a year. 2 outpatient rehab programs failed. 7 different sponsors, each chosen for how dysfunctional and/or unavailable they seemed. 12 years of lies, half measures, and doing everything I could to avoid actually getting sober. When I think of all the energy I expended trying to avoid the work of sobriety, it truly makes me sad and/or bemused.
5 years ago, I was given one last opportunity to recover. I was sent to a tiny little treatment center in the mountains with some women who were tough as nails but kind and good as gold. I was loved, but taught discipline. I was given the tools to make sense of my life and to move on without drugs or alcohol as my crutches.
I am so very grateful tonight. To those of you who are in the program, thanks for my sobriety.
Me, 56
Him, 48 (JMSSC)
Married 26 years. Reconciled.
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 11:26 PM on Tuesday, September 3rd, 2013
That's awesome! Congrats!
still2suspicious ( member #31722) posted at 11:49 PM on Tuesday, September 3rd, 2013
***standing up, clapping*** for you HFSSC!
Congrats! You deserve to be so proud of yourself.
Me: BSHim: WHDDay: LTEA Every storm runs out of rain - Gary Allen
D final 2/23
somanyyears ( member #26970) posted at 11:52 PM on Tuesday, September 3rd, 2013
..that is truly a milestone to be proud of, for sure.
..BIG CONGRATULATIONS sent to you.
..smy 
trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think! Me 77 Her 74 Married 52 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumour!
authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 12:09 AM on Wednesday, September 4th, 2013
Yayyyyyyyyyyy!!!!!!
GOOD FOR YOU!!!
DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.
click4it ( member #209) posted at 12:39 AM on Wednesday, September 4th, 2013
CONGRATS!!
Me: 45
Two boys: 20 and 17
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01
Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?
purplejacket4 ( member #34262) posted at 12:43 AM on Wednesday, September 4th, 2013
Me: BS 50
Her: FWS 53 (both family med MDs; together 23 years)
OW: who cares (PhD)
Dday: 10/11: 11/11 TT for months; NC 8/12
Limboconsiliationish
"band aids don't fix bullet holes" Taylor Swift
I NEVER mind medical ???
Eranda ( member #6010) posted at 12:56 AM on Wednesday, September 4th, 2013
Congrats. That's a long hard road, but so worth it.
My Blog: http://allofthewaystohell.com/
jrc1963 ( member #26531) posted at 1:09 AM on Wednesday, September 4th, 2013
Me: BSO - 56 Him: FWSO - 79 DS - 23 D-Day - 12-11-09, R - he finally came homeYour life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 1:15 AM on Wednesday, September 4th, 2013
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
kernel ( member #27035) posted at 1:20 AM on Wednesday, September 4th, 2013
That is truly amazing - congrats to you!
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."
boontje ( member #33247) posted at 1:24 AM on Wednesday, September 4th, 2013
You are AWESOME!! Congratulations.
B
Me: BS
Dday: June 2011
Courage is not having the strength to go on; it is going on when you don't have the strength.
--Theodore Roosevelt
Lionne ( member #25560) posted at 1:28 AM on Wednesday, September 4th, 2013
Bless you. As I sit here worrying about my DS I hope and pray that someday he will be able to say this. Amazing accomplishment., amazing work. Good for you!
Me-BS-71 in May HIM-SAFWH-74 I just wanted a normal life.Normal trauma would have been appreciated.
ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 1:35 AM on Wednesday, September 4th, 2013
CONGRATULATIONS!!
JustDesserts ( member #39665) posted at 1:47 PM on Wednesday, September 4th, 2013
Stellar! And keep coming back.
JD
2 year EA/PA. DDay 3/12. Broke NC 6/13 w/one stupid 5 line e-mail (which brought me to SI). Me: WH, 51. Her: BW, 50. Married 20 years. Two kids. Dog. Reconciling...together.
lynnm1947 ( member #15300) posted at 2:22 PM on Wednesday, September 4th, 2013
Congratulations. When I read your story, I had hope for the our members who are suffering with their children's addictions.
Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!
"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks
painpaingoaway ( member #27196) posted at 3:14 PM on Wednesday, September 4th, 2013
Don't know how I missed this!
Good for you HFSSC! So proud of you.
And Lynnm, thanks for that.
D-Day June 2009
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk
metamorphisis ( member #12041) posted at 3:19 PM on Wednesday, September 4th, 2013
Wonderful HFSSC!!!!!!
Nothing beats authenticity, being present, and LIVING.
Go softly my sweet friend. You will always be a part of who I am.
ajsmom ( member #17460) posted at 3:20 PM on Wednesday, September 4th, 2013
Good for you!
WOOT!!!
AJ's MOM
Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.
"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
One AMAZING DS - 34
krazy8516 ( member #40076) posted at 7:23 PM on Wednesday, September 4th, 2013
So inspirational, congrats!
me: BW, 30
him: WH, 25
us: edging closer to R every day
married 2y, together 2.5y
1 beautiful daughter, 23m
"Someday soon, I'm going to put my life together; Win or lose, I'm starting over again."
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