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Topic: 1825 days
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HFSSC
♀ 33338
Member # 33338 |  Posted: 5:23 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013 |     |
Tomorrow, when I wake up, it will be 5 years of sobriety for me. So today is 1,825 days.
It took me 12 years of in-and-out, half-assed efforts (court ordered and/or state board-ordered) to manage to put together a year. 2 outpatient rehab programs failed. 7 different sponsors, each chosen for how dysfunctional and/or unavailable they seemed. 12 years of lies, half measures, and doing everything I could to avoid actually getting sober. When I think of all the energy I expended trying to avoid the work of sobriety, it truly makes me sad and/or bemused.
5 years ago, I was given one last opportunity to recover. I was sent to a tiny little treatment center in the mountains with some women who were tough as nails but kind and good as gold. I was loved, but taught discipline. I was given the tools to make sense of my life and to move on without drugs or alcohol as my crutches.
I am so very grateful tonight. To those of you who are in the program, thanks for my sobriety.
Me, 50. (How did THAT happen??)
Him, 42 (JMSSC)
married 20 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.
Posts: 3881 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina |
jo2love
♀ 31528
Member # 31528 | | Posted: 5:26 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013 | |
That's awesome! Congrats! 
Posts: 49458 | Registered: Mar 2011 |
still2suspicious
♀ 31722
Member # 31722 | | Posted: 5:49 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013 | |
***standing up, clapping*** for you HFSSC!
Congrats! You deserve to be so proud of yourself.
Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA
Posts: 1587 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: |
somanyyears
♂ 26970
Member # 26970 | | Posted: 5:52 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013 | |
..that is truly a milestone to be proud of, for sure.
..BIG CONGRATULATIONS sent to you.
..smy 
trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 69
Her 66
Married 44 yrs (together 49)
18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer.
. died from a brain tumor@57
Posts: 4863 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Ontario Canada |
authenticnow
♀ 16024
Member # 16024 | | Posted: 6:09 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013 | |
Yayyyyyyyyyyy!!!!!!
GOOD FOR YOU!!!
“Empathy has no script. There is no right way or wrong way to do it. It’s simply listening, holding space, withholding judgment, emotionally connecting, and communicating that incredibly healing message of “you’re not alone.” ~ Brene Brown
Posts: 54906 | Registered: Sep 2007 |
click4it
♀ 209
Member # 209 | | Posted: 6:39 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013 | |
CONGRATS!!
Me: 42
Two boys: 18 and 15
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01
Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?
Posts: 25682 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California |
purplejacket4
♀ 34262
Member # 34262 | | Posted: 6:43 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013 | |
Congratulations!!!
Me: BS 47
Her: FWS 50 (both family med MDs; together 20 years)
OW: who cares (PhD)
Dday: 10/11: 11/11 TT for months; NC 8/12
Limboconsiliationish
"band aids don't fix bullet holes" Taylor Swift
I NEVER mind medical ???
Posts: 2995 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Here |
Eranda
♀ 6010
Member # 6010 | | Posted: 6:56 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013 | |
Congrats. That's a long hard road, but so worth it.
My Blog: http://allofthewaystohell.com/
Posts: 4254 | Registered: Dec 2004 | From: eastern PA |
jrc1963
♀ 26531
Member # 26531 | | Posted: 7:09 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013 | |
Congrats!!! Way to Go!!
Me: BSO - 48
Him: FWSO - 71
DS - 15
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"
Posts: 25863 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida |
FaithFool
♀ 20150
Member # 20150 | | Posted: 7:15 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013 | |
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
Posts: 20288 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada |
kernel
♀ 27035
Member # 27035 | | Posted: 7:20 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013 | |
That is truly amazing - congrats to you!
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."
Posts: 5379 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest |
boontje
♀ 33247
Member # 33247 | | Posted: 7:24 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013 | |
You are AWESOME!! Congratulations.
B
Me: BS
Dday: June 2011
Courage is not having the strength to go on; it is going on when you don't have the strength.
--Theodore Roosevelt
Posts: 1330 | Registered: Aug 2011 |
scaredyKat
♀ 25560
Member # 25560 | | Posted: 7:28 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013 | |
Bless you. As I sit here worrying about my DS I hope and pray that someday he will be able to say this. Amazing accomplishment., amazing work. Good for you!
Me-BS-62
HIM-SAFWH-65
Damn autocorrect is responsible for the silly errors, sorry!
Posts: 5909 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: In my head |
ThoughtIKnewYa
♀ 18449
Member # 18449 | | Posted: 7:35 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013 | |
CONGRATULATIONS!!
Posts: 12215 | Registered: Mar 2008 |
JustDesserts
♂ 39665
Member # 39665 | | Posted: 7:47 AM, September 4th (Wednesday), 2013 | |
Stellar! And keep coming back.
JD
2 year EA/PA. DDay 3/12. Broke NC 6/13 w/one stupid 5 line e-mail (which brought me to SI). Me: WH, 51. Her: BW, 50. Married 20 years. Two kids. Dog. Reconciling...together.
Posts: 404 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Suburbia, New England, USA |
lynnm1947
♀ 15300
Member # 15300 | | Posted: 8:22 AM, September 4th (Wednesday), 2013 | |
Congratulations. When I read your story, I had hope for the our members who are suffering with their children's addictions.
Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!
"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks
Posts: 8720 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Toronto, Canada |
painpaingoaway
♀ 27196
Member # 27196 | | Posted: 9:14 AM, September 4th (Wednesday), 2013 | |
Don't know how I missed this!
Good for you HFSSC! So proud of you.
And Lynnm, thanks for that.
Me, BS, 58
Him, WS 61
D-Day June 2009
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk
Posts: 7192 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South |
metamorphisis
♀ 12041
Member # 12041 | | Posted: 9:19 AM, September 4th (Wednesday), 2013 | |
Wonderful HFSSC!!!!!!
Nothing beats authenticity, being present, and LIVING.
Go softly my sweet friend. You will always be a part of who I am.
Posts: 51534 | Registered: Sep 2006 |
ajsmom
♀ 17460
Member # 17460 | | Posted: 9:20 AM, September 4th (Wednesday), 2013 | |
Good for you!
WOOT!!!
AJ's MOM
Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.
"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
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Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
One AMAZING DS - 34
Posts: 21377 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back |
krazy8516
♀ 40076
Member # 40076 | | Posted: 1:23 PM, September 4th (Wednesday), 2013 | |
So inspirational, congrats!
me: BW, 30
him: WH, 25
us: edging closer to R every day
married 2y, together 2.5y
1 beautiful daughter, 23m
"Someday soon, I'm going to put my life together; Win or lose, I'm starting over again."
Posts: 368 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Texas |
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