BS: me - 39
At home on mat leave with my newest daughter - just 14 weeks old. Man, is she a sweetheart. But I digress...
I'm feeling very weird and unsettled today. Yesterday I had a bad day with triggering - a product of too much time to think. I looked up the LTA OW, and saw a picture of her at a table having drinks with a bunch of girls. The girl in the foreground looks like my sister-in-law, but the picture is low-resolution, so I can't be sure. I sent an email to her yesterday to ask if it was her, and haven't heard back.
Also, I'm feeling very trapped. My WH can not be counted on to help me with any of this trauma - I have accepted that. Thing is, if I leave, I can surely get over this relationship, and have a satisfying life. But what about my daughters? They'll never get over it. So how can I sacrifice their childhood and intact family for my own peace? I can't. People say kids are resilient, but I think they are adaptive. I can't believe this is my life.
WH: him - 39
Married over 11 years, together for 20.
DD#1: 12/12/10 - LTA of 3 years, 2 mos.
DD#2: 02/02/11 - 2 EA/PA with coworkers, a month after the LTA was ended (by OW).
In tentative reconciliation.