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Skan posted 9/4/2013 22:35 PM

We TVO "So You Think You Can Dance" to watch together. It's something that we've done since season 1. "Say Something," was one of this week's dances, and the theme is that two friends, of which the man is interested in something more, and he gives up, finally has the woman thinking that there might be something more, triggered the hell out of me.

I started sobbing. Not crying, not tearing, but sobbing with all of the ugly after affects of snot, etc. Sobbing, with tears, snot, clutching of shirt, the entire ugly crying THANG all at once. Just crying uncontrollably over what could have been.

And it led to both of us talking about what was, what we did, what we could have been, and what we could be now. From now on. It was not pretty, but it was honest and raw. And real.

And we are on the same page. That what did not work, that which could work, and what we could be from this point on.

Yeah. It had painful elements. But, it had honesty, truth, and hope. And I choose to believe the latter. Hope.

May we all have legitimate hope.

bionicgal posted 9/5/2013 09:08 AM

Beautiful post - which is ironic since snot played such a pivotal role! (You made me laugh!)

Skan posted 9/5/2013 16:13 PM

Holy shine-ola! I completely forgot that I wrote this last night and posted another post about it! Guess that's what happens when you have a couple of bottles of wine. Of course, I did leave out the great sex afterward, since it hadn't happened yet....

SisterMilkshake posted 9/5/2013 16:23 PM

When I was reading this, Skan, I was thinking "hey, deja vu" . Glad you cleared that up for me!

Skan posted 9/5/2013 20:15 PM

Well SisterM, you know that a good O will sorta re-set your brain. Guess I killed a few more memory cells last night!