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User Topic: Trigger, and Closeness
Skan
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Default  Posted: 10:35 PM, September 4th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We TVO "So You Think You Can Dance" to watch together. It's something that we've done since season 1. "Say Something," was one of this week's dances, and the theme is that two friends, of which the man is interested in something more, and he gives up, finally has the woman thinking that there might be something more, triggered the hell out of me.

I started sobbing. Not crying, not tearing, but sobbing with all of the ugly after affects of snot, etc. Sobbing, with tears, snot, clutching of shirt, the entire ugly crying THANG all at once. Just crying uncontrollably over what could have been.

And it led to both of us talking about what was, what we did, what we could have been, and what we could be now. From now on. It was not pretty, but it was honest and raw. And real.

And we are on the same page. That what did not work, that which could work, and what we could be from this point on.

Yeah. It had painful elements. But, it had honesty, truth, and hope. And I choose to believe the latter. Hope.

May we all have legitimate hope.


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 5103 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
bionicgal
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Default  Posted: 9:08 AM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Beautiful post - which is ironic since snot played such a pivotal role! (You made me laugh!)


me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.

Posts: 2159 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
Skan
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Default  Posted: 4:13 PM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Holy shine-ola! I completely forgot that I wrote this last night and posted another post about it! Guess that's what happens when you have a couple of bottles of wine. Of course, I did leave out the great sex afterward, since it hadn't happened yet....


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 5103 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 4:23 PM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When I was reading this, Skan, I was thinking "hey, deja vu" . Glad you cleared that up for me!


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9952 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
Skan
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Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well SisterM, you know that a good O will sorta re-set your brain. Guess I killed a few more memory cells last night!


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 5103 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
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