I know this is only in the dreams of most BS (myself included), and violence is NEVER the answer but how many of you actually did beat the AP? Mods, if this is not a topic that should be discussed, please feel free to remove.
I've never once risked breaking a nail on an OW. I have however entered into some email/facebook "fights" with them. Needless to say, their ignorance regarding the man they were sleeping with (the man who came home to me), allowed me to walk away winning the argument.
Not quite the satisfaction as a good smack to their ugly mug would have given me, but at least this route kept me out of jail.
*** Sex addiction is very real. I finally saw it first hand***
I do know one BH wound up in jail for assault. And, I have read here where one BW was physically attacked by the OW at a restaurant.
Yeah, I am not willing to run the risk of any legal retribution. However, I fantasize about OW showing up at my door and me throat punching it.
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
Unfortunately her daughter (19) was there and heard me, even though I was unaware of her presence. I felt bad about that, but maybe she should have thought twice about sleeping with someone else's husband. I can't imagine what she told her daughter.
I would fantasize about killing her, but I know I would never touch a hair on her head. Amazing how much I hate her though. I never knew I could hate someone this much. In face, she is probably the first person that I have truly hated.
Really great what our cheating spouses turn us into, isn't it.
However, my FWH, during a particularly heinous fight (in our driveway, after drinking, shortly into R), told me "Just hit me if you think it'll make you feel better."
An unmeasurable amount of time later some drunk riding home on his bike pulled me off of FWH. I was covered in his blood and he was almost unrecognizable. It took a few weeks for his face to go back to normal.
We had to go back to work the next week (we were on vacation), and even a week later my boss saw his face and threatened to call the cops on me. He told people a group of guys had jumped him outside the bar. It was humiliating.
My advice: don't hit people, and don't drink while new to betrayal or new to R.
[This message edited by Want2help at 6:31 PM, September 5th (Thursday)]
My Affair: 2015
Status: trying to pick up the pieces.
[This message edited by Lostly88 at 7:43 PM, September 5th (Thursday)]
It actually shook me to the core that I lost control and attacked her.
Kudos to your mom!
Anyway, My mother was a petite woman. She was 5 feet tall but was tough as nails! After that, she sort of gave up. Although they did seperate for about 5 years when I was in high school, they did re-unite she forgave dad and dad was very doting on her. Sadly though, she passed in 2007 but he was right there by her side. 100% reconciled.
I had a similar experience as a kid, but in reverse. My mom was the OW. We lived in some section 8 apartments, and my mom was having an A with the the maintenance man. One day there was a knock on the door, and when my mom opened the door his wife just burst through and pummeled my mom in front of me and my sister. I was seven. Her H finally arrived and pulled her off my mom - my mom just lay there crying with blood all over her face. The fact my wife risked having this happen to our son is something I will never understand. It's extremely traumatic to a child, and the second worst thing that's ever happened to me by someone else's choices.
I didn't confront my wife's AP - not because violence isn't the answer, but because I was pretty sure that I'd be the one who got his ass kicked. And I preferred to remain only cuckolded, he'd already had the pleasure of abusing my wife any way he wanted, I wasn't going to let him do it to me.
However, my H cheated on his first wife with the same whore that tried to break up our M. His XW told me that she "beat the shit" out of Whore. I only wish I could have seen that. Most of the time, I got along with his ex (and mother of his children) but there was one time they were in a court battle over money, and she threatened me, right there while I was sitting in the court room, to beat the living crap out of me. This event happened a long time before my H's A with the whore, so I don't doubt that his XW might have done something like that.