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Reconciliation :
not all bad

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 lucy17 (original poster member #40187) posted at 12:59 AM on Friday, September 6th, 2013

I feel like I only post negative because that's when I need support, but I feel so much hope when I see other's positive posts.

I have been feeling shitty because of our recent anniversary. I tried talking to him about it and he pretty much shut me down saying that all I do is focus on the negative--don't I think about all the positive---and then walking away. So I wrote in my journal about the way I was feeling not just about the anniversary but about the lack of listening and empathy. I had him read my journal and tonight he met me with dinner and a sincere apology as well as a new journal (since mine was used up).

We are getting there.

“The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong at the broken places." Hemingway
Me- BS 38
Him- WS 44
1 child- 13 years old
together 21 years, legally married 17
Dday1- 7/7/13
Dday2- 8/12/13
The rollercoaster of R

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Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 1:09 AM on Friday, September 6th, 2013

It sounds like you have found a great way to communicate your feelings to him. I hope this is the start of a good new pattern.

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom

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LosferWords ( member #30369) posted at 3:35 PM on Friday, September 6th, 2013

The main thing that is important is communication - negative, positive, and otherwise. Making progress in communication is a big positive, in my opinion. Sounds like you both made some great progress this week. Thanks for sharing this.

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TxsT ( member #39996) posted at 3:46 PM on Friday, September 6th, 2013

Great first step.....why don't you make it a communal journal.....let him write things too. That will encourage even more communication that might be hard to verbalized.

Don't forget to offer up praise when you see him changing, being helpful or working hard at R.....your words will encourage him and inspire him to do more.

T

Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!

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