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kg201 (original poster member #40173) posted at 1:56 AM on Friday, September 6th, 2013
So for the first time since the first week after dday I have a MC appointment tomorrow. All the therapists in the Northeast take August off.
I am not quite sure what we are going to talk about since we don't really have a marriage anymore, but the last the MC said to us 4 weeks ago was to take it slow. Well...we are now 2 weeks into separation, and only talking about the kids and finances.
I told her one thing I would like to hear from her is an answer to how she can lack compassion towards me when that is something she prided herself on in the past. I wonder whether she will answer that. I am hoping, but probably it won't happen, that the MC calls her on some of her justification bullshit. We'll see.
Me: BH, 40
Her: Ms. Daisy
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, living together
Dday: 7/28/13
Ds17, DS12, DD12
Divorced! 2/24/2015
Apology. You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.
nomistakeaboutit ( member #36857) posted at 2:33 AM on Friday, September 6th, 2013
Whatever she says, I wonder if she'll be thinking this: Compassion toward you? Why? It's mostly your fault, isn't it? You didn't pay enough attention to me, You golfed too much. You have a lot to answer for, my friend. You basically drove me into the affair. Shit, I almost had no choice. In many ways, I deserved to have someone else without telling you.
Me: BH 65.........Her: WW 55
DD: 15.......DS: 12. (5 and 2 on DDay)
Married for six years.
DDay: 12-25-11 Divorced: 7-15-12
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kg201 (original poster member #40173) posted at 2:34 AM on Friday, September 6th, 2013
That's sounds about right.
Me: BH, 40
Her: Ms. Daisy
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, living together
Dday: 7/28/13
Ds17, DS12, DD12
Divorced! 2/24/2015
Apology. You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.
5454real ( member #37455) posted at 2:41 AM on Friday, September 6th, 2013
I know its going to hurt when I say this, but why waste the money? none of this was your choice. quite honestly it has to be her choice 2 actually proceed to a reconciliation.
anything else will be your fault.
I'm sorry
strength brother
BH 58, WW 49
DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
"I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone."
― Sophocle
kg201 (original poster member #40173) posted at 3:16 AM on Friday, September 6th, 2013
5454, you are correct. I figure that I want to see what tomorrow brings to see where her head is at, but continued MC doesn't make sense at this point.
Me: BH, 40
Her: Ms. Daisy
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, living together
Dday: 7/28/13
Ds17, DS12, DD12
Divorced! 2/24/2015
Apology. You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.
5454real ( member #37455) posted at 3:34 AM on Friday, September 6th, 2013
I want to see what tomorrow brings to see where her head is at
If that really is your only expectation, maybe ok. She's been showing you where it's at. I just hope you aren't looking for that miracle revelation.
I can't even begin to tell you how sorry that this has happened.
I am sending strength brother
BH 58, WW 49
DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
"I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone."
― Sophocle
kg201 (original poster member #40173) posted at 3:50 AM on Friday, September 6th, 2013
No. I have never been a believer in miracles. Her head is pretty far up there right now. Not many miracles in the dark.
Thanks for the strength.
Me: BH, 40
Her: Ms. Daisy
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, living together
Dday: 7/28/13
Ds17, DS12, DD12
Divorced! 2/24/2015
Apology. You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.
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