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heforgotme posted 9/5/2013 22:00 PM


I love you. Unfortunately for me, I don't think I know how to stop.

But I can't do this anymore.

I just cannot.

I'm so sorry.

I know you are different. I know you are trying.

But you did it.

You traded me for someone else.

You did it.

And now you are so sorry. You are. I can feel it. YOu are.

But you did it. You loved me less.

You did.

I am sorry that I can't get past this. I am.

So very, very sorry.

But I can't.

I love you so.

I always will.


trebleclef posted 9/5/2013 22:28 PM

I hear you HFM.
So, so, incredibly sad.


StillStanding1 posted 9/5/2013 22:33 PM

My screen is all blurry...

So very sorry! They try, we try, I don't know, it's all just so complicated. Some of the hurt is so deep and earth-shattering , we just can't get past it, even if we want to.

Sending hugs and wishing you peace...

Crushed1 posted 9/5/2013 22:52 PM


heforgotme posted 9/5/2013 23:09 PM

My screen is all blurry...

It's killing me guys. I think this was a deal breaker. I don't want it to be. But I think it was. I can barely breathe.........

ILINIA posted 9/6/2013 07:23 AM

The simplicity of your letter is so tragically beautiful and painful. My heart aches for you, as today I feel the same as you.

Hugs to you.

Ellephantastic posted 9/6/2013 07:30 AM

So sorry for you!

I hope you make it through, you are a strong woman and you can get through this!


Skan posted 9/6/2013 15:18 PM

Ah sweetie, the pain in your simple, but oh so elegant words, just leaps off of the screen. (((hugs)))

confusedsad posted 9/6/2013 18:08 PM

wow. Your dday is 1 day after mine. Your letter is exactly how I feel. This sucks. Is your story somewhere? I am so sorry.

(I would do the hugs thing if i knew what symbol it was. But I am typing on my nook and it is not the friendliest.)

devasted30 posted 9/7/2013 05:16 AM

I can read the pain you are in. I'm there too. It's been almost a year since I found out about the affair and 8 months since he returned. Yes, I got the final truths and I don't know if I can go on.
But, there have been several TT's and each time I have been able to pick myself up, dust myself off and continue.
Is it easy HELL NO
Do I still love my WS - ?????
Do I want my marriage - HELL YES
Can I live like this???????
Can I survive this last truth - I don't know.
Everything I read tells me it takes YEARS to get back to your "new normal".
If you still love your WS and he is truly remorseful, sorry and doing all the right things - NC etc., then my advice is to hang in there. Give it another few months and see how you feel. Once the love is gone there is nothing left, but if you truly do still love, don't cut out yet - who knows as strange as it sounds, possibly the best is yet to come.
Good Luck

simpleD posted 9/7/2013 07:52 AM

Wow... Such heartfelt words that are simple & directly stated. Sorry for your pain.... For all our pain... For all the doubts & fears... For not feeling secure... For questioning if I can make it through... May you find the strength, courage, forgiveness & love to go on.

nomistakeaboutit posted 9/7/2013 11:22 AM

Your letter has expressed your feelings very well. It's a powerful letter. I also think it's healthy for you to have crafted it.

You are certainly fully justified in leaving him, if that is what you choose to do. What I see in your letter, however, is that you are done, maybe, or even probably. But, neither of those counts as done. I wish the best outcome for you.

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