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Topic: Unbearable

bytheboard
♀ 37741
Member # 37741

Posted: 10:22 AM, September 6th (Friday), 2013

I just can't take this pain anymore. I hate that every option is fucked up. I feel exactly like I did when I was raped. I feel like that 16 year old girl again... So wounded and with no hope of justice... Left to deal with it all alone. Expected to be the bigger person, to be "strong", to just deal with it. I have no choice here. I have to deal with it one way or the other. He did this to me and I can't change it.

BW: sparrow 34
WH: 45 SA(regretswhatidid)
DDays: 9/3/12 ,9/10/12 ,9/12/12 ,10/01/12 ,12/03/12,more TT same events 2/24/12
3x ONS= 2CL hook-ups,1 on TDY
46 Craigslist Ads, AFF, chatrooms,
4EA w/past partners
4 kids

Posts: 122 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Connecticut but Virginia at heart

shatteredheart7
♀ 39734
Member # 39734

Posted: 10:24 AM, September 6th (Friday), 2013

((((bytheboard))))

Me~40
FWH~46
Married 8yrs
Together 11 1/2
Me~ 3 kids, 21,17,14
Him~no kids
A with a mutual "friend" for 2+yrs
He confessed 9/9/12
A was over 2/12
7/13~ Happier than we have been in yrs!

Posts: 240 | Registered: Jul 2013

TxsT
♀ 39996
Member # 39996

Posted: 10:28 AM, September 6th (Friday), 2013

ByTheBoard....

Concentrate you yourself, heal yourself. He is of little significance right now. Go get so good IC.Move out if you have to. Separation from your biggest trigger will do you good.

Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!

Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN

simpleD
♀ 40321
Member # 40321

Posted: 10:39 AM, September 6th (Friday), 2013

So sorry for your pain & struggle. The yo-yo effect of emotions can be horrible. I agree with TxsT that getting some IC and taking time away from WH, if possible, may be helpful. Can you ask him / tell him to leave? Take care of you & your needs right now.

BS(me)48; WH 49
High School Sweethearts
Together 32 years
Married 25 years
DD, 20 years
Dday 8/11
In Recovery

Posts: 22 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: United States

TxsT
♀ 39996
Member # 39996

Posted: 10:40 AM, September 6th (Friday), 2013

Wow Simple.....our profile stats makes us look like twins but I am just a bit older

Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!

Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN

JanaGreen
♀ 29341
Member # 29341

Posted: 11:21 AM, September 6th (Friday), 2013

((HUGS)) so very sorry.

He's 41, I'm 35. One awesome 6-year-old daughter, and a brand-new sweet baby boy, June 5.

Posts: 7716 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: The land of a thousand guilts and poured cement

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