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Last night the husband was talking about how he wishes they did sleep together because was such a good friend. Yeah okay.

Then he says that he wishes he could take the best parts of her and me and mix them together. Wtf? He said she was a hard worker and adventurous. Yes because talking to you at work to avoid working clearly shows a good work ethic and having sex at work and getting drunk all the time is so awesome.

Yes I'm a little cranky today and he's getting the lack of attention he deserves.

His blameshifting. Ow asked me to come over so I had to. Ow started the sex or making out so that's why I did it!!! Argh

What the fuck? Why would he think it's ok to say that to you?

Jana....I am with you on this one!!! How in the world can one human being think they have the right to say something like that to another hurt individual????? Especially if the other individual is the one they hurt. OMG this guys ass would be out of my house sooooooo fast HIS head would spin.

Sorry but I had to be honest. This guy is not worth the effort.

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RYFKM?????? He said this to your face?????????

Oh, Honey, he needs some attention. Some serious attention. Well, his shit does. The shit you pack into Hefty Bags & hurl out the door. Then you scream at him, "Hope the door knob hits ya where the Good Lord split ya!"

What a bastard!

And he is still breathing?

He had taken a lot (6-7 adivan) and was drinking.

I just want him to understand that a good friend doesn't help you destroy your family. And you are a grown ass man and being jealous of the attention your wife gives your children is fucked up. He would get jealous that I would leave him to go to the grocery store.

And what did he do today. He's been laying on the couch and the bed playing clash of the clans. I asked him if he could clean out his van today because it smells awful. He had told me to leave him alone. So I told him 'you know for someone that thinks so highly of other people's work ethics you'd think you'd do some work too."

I think I may have pissed him off. darn.

Seriously I understand that I'm a SAHM and my job doesn't pay but that doesn't mean that I don't have a good work ethic.

I just can't believe how immature he is sometimes. We are both 33 and we've been together since we were 19 and married at 21. We have 6 kids. how the hell do you not grow up in that time frame?

ugh.

Seriously Cuppa -

You need to throw his ass out. SAHM or not. You don't need this level of disrespect. You are sanctioned to be SAHM so he doesn't have to do shit, on his time off. Sorry buddy. No more. If you can't throw him out, I certainly would stop doing anything for him.

I am so angry for you. Punch a kitten, no throwing him off a building, yah.

It is a bit concerning that he is able to drink and take 6-7 ativan in a day, and still be able to communicate, this is overdose level use of this medicine.

OMG!!!

That is ridiculous!

When confronted with a wedding date by OW (and plans to reverse his vasectomy and names of future kids) my WS said "SHE talked about that stuff. I didn't."

So I am to believe that he sat there like a stonewall while she planned all of this, with no response or positive reinforcement from him, and that as a woman, she was ok with that kind of reaction from a man she intended to marry?

What.the.hell.

Why am I even still talking to him?!?!

Cuppacoffee,

The next time he talks about mixing you two together or wishing he'd slept with her, send him this meme:

eta: Way better than alcohol and Ativan, anyway. Or kitten punching.

[This message edited by silverhopes at 5:01 PM, September 6th (Friday)]

Well I don't want to punch a kitten or you punch a kitten but he seriously needs a kick in the balls.

Wow, how did you keep your composure on that remark? My wa has,said a lot of stupid things but he knows better than to EVER insinuate she's got anything he wants, in front of me. I'm sure its in his head, where it better stay..

He did tell me on DD, when I was talking about what a backstabbing bitch she was, don't blame her, she asked if you would be mad and I told her it was ok with you

I thought that was pretty stupid. So if a ws tells ow, "my wife says its ok to f**k me", the ow IS NOT TO BLAME. Okayyyy

Hey cuppa...6 or 7 ativan plus alcohol?? Is he on a suicide mission...that's very dangerous. I knew someone that died doing that, accidentally

[This message edited by Ostrich80 at 6:37 PM, September 6th (Friday)]

yes he's suicidal. He's been for a very long time. He would rather ignore his problems than deal with them so turn into mountains then he feels like ending his life is the best way to handle it all.

He was still "friends" with skank back in March when he got real bad when he started going to the doctor. I kicked him out for a few days (pre dday). He called the skank to talk to her because she was such a great friend and she told him she didn't have time for his shit.

but somehow i'm the bad guy. i'm the only person that has ever truly loved him and this is the shit i get. I'm not perfect by any means but I'm not going to let him get away with shit. He calls that me being a bitch and being all over his shit. No that's me trying to get you to be a man not a boy.

i'm just really afraid of the day when he puts one of his plans in motion.

"I don't know!"

I told him several times, every time he said it, it made me want to hit him. Of course I never did, but I could live the rest of my life without hearing, "I don't know!" again!

I think mainly because he's lying. He knows, and I know he knows, so just tell me the damn truth!

he says that he wishes he could take the best parts of her and me and mix them together.

^^^What the hell is wrong with him????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????

yes he's suicidal. He's been for a very long time. He would rather ignore his problems than deal with them so turn into mountains then he feels like ending his life is the best way to handle it all.

That's serious. Is he in IC? The Ativan and alcohol can't be helping him when he uses them this way. It sounds like he needs professional support to learn some better coping techniques. Does he refuse to seek out help for his health?

Do you and the kids feel safe?

He is in ic and has been since march. He just lost his job two weeks ago so he can't see the ic for a few weeks.