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Phoenix9572 posted 9/6/2013 13:59 PM

We just separated last Tuesday and my WH has his first date tonight. He has wasted no time in joining at least 2 dating sites. It hurts that our 22 years together has been walked away from so easily. It is also sad that he can't take the time to reflect on what went wrong between us before he goes wooing the next woman in line.
Don't get me wrong, I know in the long run I am better off without him. He's an SA that is in complete denial about his problems and may never change. I had to get out to save myself but it still leaves a little bruise to think about. I think that tomorrow being my bday doesn't help either. He would always spoil me. <sigh>

lieshurt posted 9/6/2013 14:03 PM

It's just more proof of how broken he truly is.

dmari posted 9/6/2013 14:09 PM

Ouch. How did you find out about his date? It's so hard to comprehend, isn't it.

I hope you spoil yourself tomorrow on your special day ~ HaPpY bIrThDaY (one day early)!

Mousse242 posted 9/6/2013 20:37 PM

I don't know your story but you've had d-days going back to May. Honey, he's already been "dating".

((hugs))

Got2GO posted 9/6/2013 20:51 PM

You know a man just can't be alone. They'll be on their death bed still online looking for the next woman!
Just be glad that your away from him!

jo2love posted 9/6/2013 21:10 PM

Got2GO -

GENERAL STATEMENTS: Please refrain from making statements that generalize gender, WS/OP/BS, race, religion or political alignment. Also do not presume to speak on behalf of other people.
Thank you.

SBB posted 9/6/2013 21:23 PM

Please read "She's Special" - its the second article down.

http://psychopathyawareness.wordpress.com/2011/12/20/a-vain-fantasy-his-one-true-love-the-exception-that-confirms-the-rule/

It gave me so many lightbulb moments when I first saw it here.

((Phoenix9572)) It won't always hurt this much. You do need to maintain strict NC - no snooping, no gossip, no talking to him. Nothing. NC will help you detach.

sartre posted 9/6/2013 21:26 PM

I'm alone! :)
I was in the middle of writing up a long post on a topic very much the same and I just wanted to say I understand. My wife waited slightly longer than your husband (almost 2 weeks) but, to make up for it, skipped the entire dating part and just started having sex with random strangers. Yeah it's further proof that they are broken, but it still stings (a bit, or like a motherf***er, all depending)

still2suspicious posted 9/6/2013 22:03 PM

I'm sorry. I can imagine the sting of that.

I will send a Happy Birthday hug just for you (((((Phoenix)))))

stillstrong posted 9/8/2013 11:41 AM

Oh Phoenix honey, I'm sorry, but very gently...this isn't his first date. He is just out in the open now.
I'm sorry you had hope. I did too, once, and it hurts all over again when they don't even try to fix what they broke.
(((Phoenix)))

nowiknow23 posted 9/8/2013 11:46 AM

((((Phoenix))))

Hope you had a nice birthday, honey.

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