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lostmommy posted 9/6/2013 15:47 PM

I have had the day from hell. This morning when J woke up he was complaining that his neck was bothering him. I'm hoping that he just slept on it wrong and not that it's an underlying issue. His range of motion seemed fine. Anyway, I gave XH the heads up because this is his weekend.

Around 12:45 my parents called me that J was crying that he didn't want to go to daddy and he wanted to take a nap. He never asks for a nap, so I told them to put him in. I tried getting ahold of XH (who was supposed to be there at 1) to tell him that J was sleeping and that I'd let him know when he was awake so he could come get him.

This was apparently an issue for him. He accused me of withholding my son. Said he was going to go into my parents house to get him and he'd sleep in the car. I refused, and I knew damn well that my father wouldn't let him in the door anyway. Then I had to talk to wifetress on the phone who informed me that they "had things to do and would be waking J up now to take him". I told her in no uncertain terms that I didn't give a rats ass what they had to do today, my son was sleeping, was sick, and I wasn't waking him.

Then she proceeds to put XH back on the phone who tells me that they were going to go to J's school today (parent orientation is Monday but "they" can't make it, so they were going to bring J today). I said, "so go, and you can pick him up when he wakes up. Or you can pick him up when you're done doing whatever else you have to do today. OR you can pick him up tomorrow morning. But I'm not waking him up." He then tells me he's going to call the cops. He doesn't scare me, so I tell him to go right ahead. Mind you, all of this is happening while I'm at work.

He went back to my parents house and sat outside for a minute, then told me the cops were on the way. I gave my parents the heads up. Cops came, my father showed them the baby monitor, explained what was going on, and then I spoke to the officer. Very nice guy, who said that he was going to tell my XH that there was nothing he could do at this point. That if this continued then it was something to pursue with our lawyers, but at this point waking up a sick child to go away for the weekend wasn't going to happen. Score for me! The officer asked if an RO was in place and I laughed and said "not yet!".

J wound up sleeping for almost 3 hours before he finally woke up. He still didn't want to see daddy, but I told him he was going to have so much fun! It breaks my heart that he doesn't want to go, and it makes me wonder why he doesn't want to.

Then apparently when XH went to pick J up, my father called him an idiot for calling the cops unnecessarily, and that the bottom line that he needs to keep in mind is that J should come first. Apparently XH had an issue with that and told me that he'd call the cops again to complain about my father if that ever happened again. Yes folks, this is real life.

So that's my day. Anyone have a drink???

Nature_Girl posted 9/6/2013 16:02 PM

First you need this:

Then you need this:

And then you need this:

lostmommy posted 9/6/2013 16:04 PM

Amen to that NG!! I'm heading to the Yankee/Red Sox game tonight with my man. I think he'll buy me a beer or two!

lieshurt posted 9/6/2013 16:06 PM

Then apparently when XH went to pick J up, my father called him an idiot for calling the cops unnecessarily, and that the bottom line that he needs to keep in mind is that J should come first. Apparently XH had an issue with that and told me that he'd call the cops again to complain about my father if that ever happened again.

Let him call the cops again. I'm pretty sure the lecturing of an asshole isn't against the law.

Nature_Girl posted 9/6/2013 16:07 PM

I think I will not post an image of what you & your man need...

Pass posted 9/6/2013 16:16 PM

I'm glad your father said what the rest of us were thinking. Damn shame it hurt arsehole's feelings!

osxgirl posted 9/6/2013 16:49 PM

I'm pretty sure that police officers don't really appreciate having to answer a call just to witness a "mantrum".

Not wishing your little J to be sick in the least, mind you, but here's hoping that if he is and feels the need to throw up, it happens in the car and all over wifetress.

PurpleRose posted 9/6/2013 17:07 PM

Poor little guy. I sure hope they cancel their stupid plans and let him get well.

I've had a great day of dealing with a lower muppet as well. Tonight while I'm out having a drink with my special friend, I'll cheers to you as well.

Hang in there!!

Helen of Troy posted 9/7/2013 09:24 AM

Mantrum! going to borrow that one for a good laugh.


Hope J is feeling better.

Hang in there, keep up your strong attitude.

Mousse242 posted 9/7/2013 10:57 AM

Document it all and if the cop is willing, get a statement from him too about the situation.

I would recommend keeping a recorder on you and your parents at all times too for documentation.

ruinedandbroken posted 9/7/2013 21:55 PM

What a complete ASSHOLE!!!!

Gottagetthrough posted 9/8/2013 01:22 AM

Let him call the cops again. I'm pretty sure the lecturing of an asshole isn't against the law.

yeah, this

Gottagetthrough posted 9/8/2013 01:23 AM

seriously, what a jerk

sparkysable posted 9/8/2013 07:44 AM

I'm pretty sure if he keeps calling the cops and wasting their time with stupid shit, that he's going to be the one to light the match to burn his own bridge.

They don't like wasting their time for stuff like "wahh, he called me a jerk, wahh wahh". That's gonna get old real quick with the police.

tesla posted 9/8/2013 09:42 AM

Jesus CHeeeerist, what a fucking asshole. Glad you and your dad weren't bullied by his bullshit. And glad the officer was reasonable.

FTG

Gottagetthrough posted 9/8/2013 12:21 PM

Oh yeah... The 2nd time my wh called the police on me, he called state police instead of sheriff. they started saying stuff like, yeah, we've seen guys cop shop to see if they can get state police to do something if the sheriff won't.

Third time when called the cops on me, they didn't even come in my house. It got to be old.

lostmommy posted 9/9/2013 15:13 PM

Thanks for the support everyone! J was feeling better by Saturday (he seemed a little stiff when he got home last night, but he's not saying his neck hurts anymore). Thank God for that.

As for the asshole, when he brought J home, I sent J in the house so I could talk to my XH. I looked at him and I told him the next time he calls the cops on me he better have a damn good reason. That I hope he felt like a fool and the idiot that he is. He said that he didn't believe J was sleeping... so I said "Well then you could have asked my father to see the baby monitor the same way he showed it to the cops!" I also told him to tell his family to mind their own business. That I would not discuss matters pertaining to J with his wife, and I didn't really give a damn what she had to say about anything.

I told him whatever amicable feelings I had towards him/the situation were seriously depleted after his little stunt, and if he didn't cut the bullshit in the future we would be doing drop off and pickups at the police station to avoid any conflict. He went pale at that (because that would mean that he'd have to walk at least 10 blocks from the train station to the police station). I said my only obligation was to make sure that J was available, not to have him at the train station.

He was supposed to come back with J's sweatshirt later on since he forgot it, but for some reason he told me he'd mail it instead.

Edited for a typo!

[This message edited by lostmommy at 3:14 PM, September 9th (Monday)]

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