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User Topic: Renewing the art of kissing
TxsT
♀ 39996
Member # 39996
Default  Posted: 4:52 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

hey everyone.....

Just for fun I wanted to post something lighter in nature this afternnon....try and make people smile.

one of the best parts of our R has been how we have reconnected through the simple act of kissing. while I was driving today I stopped to think about how much I had missed really taking the time to put feeling and attention into kissing my husband. I used to really be proud of how expressive my kissing was back in the day and I had come to realize that our kissing had degenerated down to that fleeting peck, air kiss, cheek butt or forhead smooch that really only shows intent but does not let you FEEL intent.

How many of you have realigned your kissing through this sad time?? Have you stopped dead in your tracks and focused completely on your spouce or do you still just send gestures. This morning my kiss goodbye to my hubby as he left for work was sweet enough and expressive enough for him to text me at lunch and say he was still thinking of the wonderful kiss I gave him this morning. That made me smile...

[This message edited by TxsT at 4:53 PM, September 6th (Friday)]


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
Getting to Happy
♀ 35200
Member # 35200
Default  Posted: 6:14 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mr Happy has big beautiful lips. We kiss a lot .

We have a parrot. She would always make kissing sounds whenever we got close.

She stopped for a while.

But now she does it all the time...She knows...

Thanks for this sweet thread TxsT!


WS him
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...

Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.
Unknown


Posts: 1151 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: La La Land
Rebreather
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Member # 30817
Default  Posted: 6:28 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, we established a rule that whoever comes home second has to approach the other with a welcome home kiss. And mean it. My kids are disgusted. I think it means we are doing something right.


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 6693 | Registered: Jan 2011
TxsT
♀ 39996
Member # 39996
Default  Posted: 6:41 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Getting....Ok the Parrot kissing noises, and lack of them, fall right into a post i read about looking at old pictures of us during tha A...something was off in our WS eyes and you can visably see it! In your house you visbaly heard it

Rebreather...this is a sweet idea. I love the kid reaction and yes it does mean you are doing something right. Our sons asked us to get a room a few weeks ago. We had to gentally remind them they were in OUR house!!!

T


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
catlover50
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Member # 37154
Default  Posted: 7:08 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Our kissing rocks now!



Dday -9/24/2012
Reconciling

Posts: 1845 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: northeast
LA44
♀ 38384
Member # 38384
Default  Posted: 7:21 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The kissing is wayyyy better.

Just sayin'!


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2677 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
bionicgal
♀ 39803
Member # 39803
Default  Posted: 9:48 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Improved 1000%!
(And the sex, too!)


me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.

Posts: 2247 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
AML04
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Default  Posted: 6:49 AM, September 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love kissing my H again :)


Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
Met 2000, Married 2004
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13
Hopeful for R

Posts: 875 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: MA
brokensmile322
♀ 35758
Member # 35758
Default  Posted: 6:57 AM, September 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, we took a snooze in the kissing department.

I love kissing...


Me BS 42 Him WS 44
OW Coworker DDay April 7, 2012
EA on a slippery slope...

When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~Viktor Frankl

"When you are happy, you can forgive a great deal."


Posts: 1611 | Registered: Jun 2012
struggling3
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Member # 34671
Default  Posted: 7:09 AM, September 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We never really stopped kissing in our 31 married years but I admit it has gotten a little more intense....I love it. We went to a "Weekend to remember" conference last week and one of the couple presenters said they make sure they have at least one 30 second kiss a day. I liked that...try to do it.


Me - BS 55
H - WS 57/very remorseful and supportive
Kids 29, 26, 22
D-Day 8-5-11
discovered 4 month long EA
R - slow and steady but very optimistic

Posts: 342 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey
TxsT
♀ 39996
Member # 39996
Default  Posted: 10:14 AM, September 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks everyone for brightening my day. I for one am so glad that both of us are done with superficial kissing. I had forgotten how much one beautiful, sexual kiss can help the positive thoughts flow through your entire day

T


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
painpaingoaway
♀ 27196
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Default  Posted: 2:16 PM, September 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love this!

I dare y'all to post kissing photos!

I'll go first, this one is a few yrs old, but it's the only kissing one I have:

Poof!

[This message edited by painpaingoaway at 9:04 PM, September 15th (Sunday)]


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 34 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 7161 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
ionlytalkedtoher
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Member # 39802
Default  Posted: 2:16 PM, September 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

hmmm I think we are still in the superficial kissing stage.

I think there is still a lot lacking for us.

I need to make more of an effort.


Posts: 264 | Registered: Jul 2013
shatteredheart7
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Member # 39734
Default  Posted: 2:22 PM, September 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love love love kissing my DH! Always have! But for 2 yrs there was not one kiss between us. My kids now walk out of the room when we start. I can kiss him for hours. When he leaves for work we kiss all the way to his truck, as he is getting in his truck and then once more before he drives off. When he gets home I am waiting for him with another kiss! Those are my favorites, he wraps his hands in my hair and pushes me up against a wall. There have been many times that dinner is delayed because of his welcome home kiss leading to more. It is time to go wake him up, he is working nights this weekend, and yeap... I'm gonna wake him up with a kiss!


Me~40
FWH~46
Married 8yrs
Together 11 1/2
Me~ 3 kids, 21,17,14
Him~no kids
A with a mutual "friend" for 2+yrs
He confessed 9/9/12
A was over 2/12
7/13~ Happier than we have been in yrs!

Posts: 240 | Registered: Jul 2013
painpaingoaway
♀ 27196
Member # 27196
Default  Posted: 2:25 PM, September 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

he wraps his hands in my hair and pushes me up against a wall.
Lawd, I'm getting the vapors, must sit down a spell.


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 34 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 7161 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
2married2quit
♂ 36555
Member # 36555
Default  Posted: 6:33 PM, September 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hate to be the party pooper but I only kiss FWW goodbye and hello a peck. That's it. No making out. I will if I had a few drinks and sometimes during sex. I was her first and only kiss but now that has been broken after 22 yrs. just doesn't feel the same. Sorry. I actually wish we could go without kissing for a year so it clears the air.


BS - Me 43 WS - Her 41
DDAY - June 2012 (found the texts)
DDAY2 - Next Day (found out who) EA
TT- till 9/2012 (some PA)
Married 20yrs. 2kids
Status: in careful R. Sometimes spinning our wheels

Posts: 1446 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: USA
TxsT
♀ 39996
Member # 39996
Default  Posted: 10:54 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awwwwww 2married.....I am sorry to hear that. I could not imagine getting to where we are today and not really kissing. I hope that changes for you buddy.

T


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
SorrowBhindSmile
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Member # 38139
Default  Posted: 11:07 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

maaaaaaaaaan...my WH is out of town on business....now i REALLY miss him and want a kiss!! LOL!

We like to play the red light game...on date nights, anytime we stop at a red light, we kiss till it turns green!! we have gotten a few honks!


Me: BW
Him: WH
OW: My former "dear friend"/neighbor
Married 20+
Kids: 3
D-Day 12/2012
Committed to R 7/8/2013
"Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle"

Posts: 357 | Registered: Jan 2013
ccw82
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Default  Posted: 11:17 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok, how do you insert a photo? I have no idea but would love to add to the kissing thread!


Me: 32
WH (1DumbHusband): 36
Married 5 years, together 7 years.
D-Day: June 17th, 2013
TTs that came out as late as July 2014

"One is not tempted by that he does not want."


Posts: 136 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Dallas, TX
TxsT
♀ 39996
Member # 39996
Default  Posted: 12:02 AM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorrow....I love that idea!!!!!!

Tonight I had a great time just putting my hand on H's thigh while we drove back from the mountains. No other touching at all. I was so pleased that it made me all hot and bothered to just touch him again!!!!! When we got in the house I gave him a wonderful kiss and he gave me the nicest, bear huggiest hug.....the world is getting better!

T


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
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