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TxsT (original poster member #39996) posted at 10:52 PM on Friday, September 6th, 2013
hey everyone.....
Just for fun I wanted to post something lighter in nature this afternnon....try and make people smile.
one of the best parts of our R has been how we have reconnected through the simple act of kissing. while I was driving today I stopped to think about how much I had missed really taking the time to put feeling and attention into kissing my husband. I used to really be proud of how expressive my kissing was back in the day and I had come to realize that our kissing had degenerated down to that fleeting peck, air kiss, cheek butt or forhead smooch that really only shows intent but does not let you FEEL intent.
How many of you have realigned your kissing through this sad time?? Have you stopped dead in your tracks and focused completely on your spouce or do you still just send gestures. This morning my kiss goodbye to my hubby as he left for work was sweet enough and expressive enough for him to text me at lunch and say he was still thinking of the wonderful kiss I gave him this morning. That made me smile... 
[This message edited by TxsT at 4:53 PM, September 6th (Friday)]
Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)
Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!
Getting to Happy ( member #35200) posted at 12:14 AM on Saturday, September 7th, 2013
Mr Happy has big beautiful lips. We kiss a lot .
We have a parrot. She would always make kissing sounds whenever we got close.
She stopped for a while.
But now she does it all the time...She knows... 
Thanks for this sweet thread TxsT!
WS him
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...
Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.
Unknown
Rebreather ( member #30817) posted at 12:28 AM on Saturday, September 7th, 2013
Well, we established a rule that whoever comes home second has to approach the other with a welcome home kiss. And mean it. My kids are disgusted. I think it means we are doing something right.
Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi
TxsT (original poster member #39996) posted at 12:41 AM on Saturday, September 7th, 2013
Getting....Ok the Parrot kissing noises, and lack of them, fall right into a post i read about looking at old pictures of us during tha A...something was off in our WS eyes and you can visably see it! In your house you visbaly heard it
Rebreather...this is a sweet idea. I love the kid reaction and yes it does mean you are doing something right. Our sons asked us to get a room a few weeks ago. We had to gentally remind them they were in OUR house!!!
T
Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)
Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!
catlover50 ( member #37154) posted at 1:08 AM on Saturday, September 7th, 2013
Dday -9/23/2012
Reconciled
LA44 ( member #38384) posted at 1:21 AM on Saturday, September 7th, 2013
The kissing is wayyyy better.
Just sayin'!
Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
bionicgal ( member #39803) posted at 3:48 AM on Saturday, September 7th, 2013
Improved 1000%!
(And the sex, too!)
me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.
AML04 ( member #39682) posted at 12:49 PM on Saturday, September 7th, 2013
I love kissing my H again :)
Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
Met 2000, Married 2004
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13
Hopeful for R
brokensmile322 ( member #35758) posted at 12:57 PM on Saturday, September 7th, 2013
Yes, we took a snooze in the kissing department.
I love kissing... 
Me BS 42 Him WS 44
OW Coworker DDay April 7, 2012
EA on a slippery slope...
When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~Viktor Frankl
"When you are happy, you can forgive a great deal."
struggling3 ( member #34671) posted at 1:09 PM on Saturday, September 7th, 2013
We never really stopped kissing in our 31 married years but I admit it has gotten a little more intense....I love it. We went to a "Weekend to remember" conference last week and one of the couple presenters said they make sure they have at least one 30 second kiss a day. I liked that...try to do it.
Me - BS 58
H - WS 60/very remorseful and supportive
discovered 4 month long EA
R - slow and steady but very optimistic
TxsT (original poster member #39996) posted at 4:14 PM on Saturday, September 7th, 2013
Thanks everyone for brightening my day. I for one am so glad that both of us are done with superficial kissing. I had forgotten how much one beautiful, sexual kiss can help the positive thoughts flow through your entire day
T
Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)
Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!
painpaingoaway ( member #27196) posted at 8:16 PM on Saturday, September 7th, 2013
Love this!
I dare y'all to post kissing photos!
I'll go first, this one is a few yrs old, but it's the only kissing one I have:
Poof!
[This message edited by painpaingoaway at 9:04 PM, September 15th (Sunday)]
D-Day June 2009
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk
ionlytalkedtoher ( member #39802) posted at 8:16 PM on Saturday, September 7th, 2013
hmmm I think we are still in the superficial kissing stage.
I think there is still a lot lacking for us.
I need to make more of an effort.
shatteredheart7 ( member #39734) posted at 8:22 PM on Saturday, September 7th, 2013
I love love love kissing my DH! Always have! But for 2 yrs there was not one kiss between us. My kids now walk out of the room when we start. I can kiss him for hours. When he leaves for work we kiss all the way to his truck, as he is getting in his truck and then once more before he drives off. When he gets home I am waiting for him with another kiss! Those are my favorites, he wraps his hands in my hair and pushes me up against a wall. There have been many times that dinner is delayed because of his welcome home kiss leading to more. It is time to go wake him up, he is working nights this weekend, and yeap... I'm gonna wake him up with a kiss!
Me~40
FWH~46
Married 8yrs
Together 11 1/2
Me~ 3 kids, 21,17,14
Him~no kids
A with a mutual "friend" for 2+yrs
He confessed 9/9/12
A was over 2/12
7/13~ Happier than we have been in yrs!
painpaingoaway ( member #27196) posted at 8:25 PM on Saturday, September 7th, 2013
he wraps his hands in my hair and pushes me up against a wall.
Lawd, I'm getting the vapors, must sit down a spell. 
D-Day June 2009
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk
2married2quit ( member #36555) posted at 12:33 AM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
Hate to be the party pooper but I only kiss FWW goodbye and hello a peck. That's it. No making out. I will if I had a few drinks and sometimes during sex. I was her first and only kiss but now that has been broken after 22 yrs. just doesn't feel the same. Sorry. I actually wish we could go without kissing for a year so it clears the air.
BS - Me 47 WS - Her 45 ( she's a childhood sexual abuse survivor)
DDAY -#1- June 2012/ #2 -June 2015 / #3-August 2015
Married 25yrs. 2kids
She had 2 affairs with two different men.
Status: divorced.
TxsT (original poster member #39996) posted at 4:54 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
Awwwwww 2married.....I am sorry to hear that. I could not imagine getting to where we are today and not really kissing. I hope that changes for you buddy.
T
Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)
Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!
SorrowBhindSmile ( member #38139) posted at 5:07 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
maaaaaaaaaan...my WH is out of town on business....now i REALLY miss him and want a kiss!! LOL!
We like to play the red light game...on date nights, anytime we stop at a red light, we kiss till it turns green!! we have gotten a few honks!
Me: BW
Him: WH
OW: My former "dear friend"/neighbor
Married 20+
Kids: 3
D-Day 12/2012
Committed to R 7/8/2013
"Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle"
ccw82 ( member #40133) posted at 5:17 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
Ok, how do you insert a photo? 
I have no idea but would love to add to the kissing thread!
Me (BW): 39
WXH (1DumbHusband): 43
We were married for over 11 years; now divorced.
BIG D-Day: June 17th, 2013
Too many freaking TTs that cost us our marriage in the end.
"Love isn't a feeling, it's a choice."
TxsT (original poster member #39996) posted at 6:02 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
Sorrow....I love that idea!!!!!!
Tonight I had a great time just putting my hand on H's thigh while we drove back from the mountains. No other touching at all. I was so pleased that it made me all hot and bothered to just touch him again!!!!! When we got in the house I gave him a wonderful kiss and he gave me the nicest, bear huggiest hug.....the world is getting better!
T
Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)
Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!
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