So apparently the email that I found that revealed the affair was an email my wife had written to the AP and my MIL saying my WW was going to stay with me. Apparently the AP and my MIL were pushing my wife to stay with me. So she was going to stay with me, not reveal the affair, and continue being "just friends" with the AP. So I was wrong to have all of my "erratic behavior" over the last five weeks, My anger at her has sealed my fate. even if she was to go NC with the AP, she still " wouldn't want to be with me any more"
Feeling is mutual.
[This message edited by kg201 at 7:26 PM, September 6th (Friday)]