You are still early on...DD just this past July, right?
3 months past my DD my wife was still finding faults with me, still mourning the loss of her relationship with the AP, lots of trickle truths. She certainly did not spearhead R or discussions about her A.
I think that is normal.....painful for BS for sure...but normal.
I would suggest MC be entered into with low expectations at first. I jumped in with both feet, falsely thinking my wife and I were still somehow in this together....only later to find out I was a solo rider. I wasted time, energy and money on us....should have worked IC for a few months before intensive MC.
TIME is a big factor here.
I have followed your posts...but have not really seen you post much about anger and rage....have you experienced that yet?
His comments revolving around your weight are similar to my wifes listing of what is not PERFECT about me. It is a cop out and is a vain attempt at WS trying to grasp a quick, easy answer as to why they committed the heinous act of adultery.
If your husband is NOT a psychopath or a narcissist, this phase will pass.
It is hard, though, to keep those comments in the context of their fog and the intoxication that is their affair....believe me, I have read things that were really not nice about me...but I was not surprised by any of them, and most of them are things I am interested in changing for ME anyway...and CAN be changed.
Peace be with you.