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fallingquickly posted 9/7/2013 00:58 AM

I'm going to start to go to a Divorce Care group next week. Does anyone have any advice that will help me get the most from this?
I am not religious but live in a very religious area. I hope that will not be an issue.

wannabenormal posted 9/7/2013 01:48 AM

This is Christian based, but when I went - it wasn't all about that. I found it really good. I took my kids to DC4K too; they really liked it.

Go; you won't be scared away.

TrustedHer posted 9/7/2013 10:05 AM

It's a religion based program, but all the people I ran into were the types that cared more for helping people than for pushing their religion.

You can get the most from it by listening to what is said, and understanding what applies to you, and what doesn't. But really listen. Some very realistic stuff is buried by the religious message.

And some of it will not apply at all.

Take what you need, and leave the rest.

The videos are good, and lay the framework, but the discussion part is the best part.

Griefstricken25 posted 9/7/2013 10:47 AM

I'm a Divorce Care leader and we get many non-religious folks through our doors. You watch a video and you can take or leave whatever is useful to you. Then there are small group discussions regarding the video or whatever is on people's minds. Your leaders may approach the healing process from God's perspective, but they will not push it on you. They'll meet you where you're at. In our group, we pray for each member at the end. You can refuse prayer of you like, but even our most non-religious never has.

Go for it. You may meet some friends and support you never imagined.

newlysingle posted 9/7/2013 12:15 PM

I go to one and am not Christian nor am I very religious. I'm not very open there about my personal beliefs, but they made it clear when I first attended that they are open to all. The information is very good, there is just a lot of scripture thrown in which I ignore. I feel like I've gotten a lot out of it. There are many people there dealing with infidelity so you will not be alone.

woundedby2 posted 9/7/2013 12:29 PM

I'm also a Divorce Care leader, and I agree with what everyone else has said. Just like anything new, the hardest part is walking through the doors that first night. At the end of your course sessions you will look back at that first night and how scared you were, and you will be amazed at how far you've come.

Go and check it out. It's an excellent program.

Gottagetthrough posted 9/7/2013 20:12 PM

I did divorce care a few years ago. Really great program that got me thru some dark days :-)

Elaine2012 posted 9/7/2013 22:06 PM

Go for it. You may meet some friends and support you never imagined.

I attended a group just a year ago. I walked into that room a complete wreck. I was scared out of my mind not knowing what my future held. A few months later I knew I would be okay. Between SI and DC I have learned that I will be alright.

We have become a very close knit group of friends. We get together at least 3 times a month with somebody hosting a dinner monthly. I never would have imagined that in a years time I would have such a good group of friends all of whom understand and support and care about each other as we walk this journey of D.

sparkysable posted 9/8/2013 07:52 AM

I'm pretty sure divorce care saved my life.

fallingquickly posted 9/8/2013 17:16 PM

Thank you all so very much for your answers. You have made me much more comfortable and encouraged. I will be starting this week. I've gotten to a fairly good place at this point. I'm at acceptance. I'm letting go of things I can not control but at the same time acknowledging what I will accept in my life.
After what you have all said, I think this could be very helpful.