I guess you could say yesterday was D-Day number 2 for me. When my partner and I broke up and I subsequently confirmed his week long EA/PA while I was out of town working, I did more super-sleuthing. Pulled up phone and text message records and I plugged each unfamiliar number in to Google and Facebook. I came back with a few likely potential OP's. One of the potential OPs was young, like 14 years younger than WS (He's 34) and I didn't want to think that he would hook up with a guy who is barely out of high school (WS was a High School teacher).
Last night, I got the nerve and sent a Facebook message to this OP and we had a conversation which confirmed that while I was out of town teaching, WS used gay sex-cruising app to find random hookup.
I have not seen WS, since middle of June and after uncovering this latest detail felt just as angry, disgusted and used as when I confirmed the other affair in July.
I don't know why but I felt compelled to share this information with his mother and oldest sister. WS lives with his mom and receives much support from oldest sister and I feel like he was painting this rosy picture that everything was MY fault, I have all the problems and that he is a wonderful, great person.
So I copied and pasted the FB messages and emailed them to his mother and sister. I wanted them to see him as the selfish, amoral piece of crap that he is.
His mother replied to me and to sum it up, blamed me, told me I was making this conversation up and to move on.
I truly believe my ex has a personality disorder and was hoping that his mother and sister would encourage him to get in to some intense treatment.
Has anyone else received such disgusting replies when they "outed" the affairs to the WS's family? Is this common?