BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
I am sorry you are triggering.
Did you tell your FWH what your expectations for the day were? Did he think that the supper was your anniversary celebration?
I would do this often pre d-day. I would expect FWH to know what I expected for any kind of special day. I have since realized I need to spell it out for him or at least discuss with him what he would want to do on our anniversary and what I expect or want to do.
d-day 3/10; LTA
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