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Topic: I am triggering and very disappointed

gonogo1
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Posted: 4:27 PM, September 7th (Saturday), 2013

Our 23 Anniversary -19 years together separated 4 yrs . FWH spent a large portion of the day at his mom 's home. Doing this and that stuff he put off forever . His mom not living there . I am angry . We are supposed to go out to supper and he is due back soon . Do I tell him I am angry or just suck it up . Input please

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SisterMilkshake
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Posted: 4:34 PM, September 7th (Saturday), 2013

I am sorry you are triggering.

(((gonogo1)))

Did you tell your FWH what your expectations for the day were? Did he think that the supper was your anniversary celebration?

I would do this often pre d-day. I would expect FWH to know what I expected for any kind of special day. I have since realized I need to spell it out for him or at least discuss with him what he would want to do on our anniversary and what I expect or want to do.

BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson

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