She doesn't want to leave her AP, but was surprised that I didn't want to be more involved in her cancer care moving forward, and also surprised how angry I was once I found out about the affair. Just weirdness. I asked her today what she thought my reaction would be during the years of her affair. She said she expected that I would have my heart-broken, be sad and angry. But she didn't think I would be sooo angry, and that is what made her decide that she didn't want R. She said there is a scale of anger, and I was way too high. How do people make this shit up?
[This message edited by kg201 at 6:36 PM, September 7th (Saturday)]
Delusion is far more powerful than we will ever understand. Chin up, kg - you're doing just fine.
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön
What a horrible situation for you and your kids. And she CHOSE to put you in this situation. Always remember that when she's trying to make you feel guilty for her choices.
I'm surprised that someone so unintelligent can walk and breath at the same time.
You are so much better off without someone so stupid and delusional. (((kg201)))
Leaving you bankrupt is not in the best interest of your children when that time comes. Please protect yourself as best you can and the law allows. Regardless how it may look to others. You need to protect the kids.
Crap. I hate bringing it up. I really hope you've already covered that.
With the health insurance I did a quick look at my state's law, and the law mandates that the ex continue to be carried on the health policy, unless they remarry. Our health insurance is fairly good and so far the only real bills have come from ER visit co-pays. The weekly bill to the insurance company over the last year was averaging $70,000, while we paid the $20 co-pay. I do have to look at the lifetime limits, because I do not know if those exist with my policy or not (but I would assume we had already reached it with the amount they have been shelling out).
She says, and we will see if she stays true to this in the mediation, that she has no intention of changing the beneficiary of her life insurance. She says that her goal is for me to continue taking care of the kids when she passes, and the life insurance is part of that. So until the negotiation begins, I don't have anything else to think that she would do otherwise.
You can also stipulate that either or both of you carry a life insurance policy of a specific amount with the ex being the beneficiary. I would definitely do this.
You need your own counsel. It won't be that expensive.