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 shatteredheart7 (original poster member #39734) posted at 12:45 AM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013

I keep reading about Karma. In theory I think Karma is a great thing. However, IF Karma is real then wouldn't that mean I did something wrong first? I have always tried to live an honest, good life. I try not to hurt others, be a good friend, mother and wife. SO what the hell did I do to deserve this?

BTW, I know that I didn't cause him to have an A. He admits this also. This is more of a rant than anything.

Me~40
FWH~46
Married 8yrs
Together 11 1/2
Me~ 3 kids, 21,17,14
Him~no kids
A with a mutual "friend" for 2+yrs
He confessed 9/9/12
A was over 2/12
7/13~ Happier than we have been in yrs!

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Ariabook ( member #39669) posted at 12:50 AM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013

These are the times I truly believe Karma does not exist. Or picks randomly and skips some SICK people. Don't waste your time on Karma, she is a B*tch.

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Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 1:03 AM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013

I think most of use karma as a euphemism for what goes around comes around/revenge. True karma is not capricious. You wouldn't even know it was happening.

Don't get caught up in revenge. It just prolongs your healing.

You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.

Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011

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sullymeishadomi ( member #16305) posted at 1:04 AM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013

Shattered, I know what you mean. Ive had a lot of crap happen to me the last few years that I thought I had done something horrible in another life. Truth is, life is life and shit happens....even a big watery pile of shit.

Karmah? Im not so sure it exists partly because I know some really nasty people (wh, ow and others) and they lead charmed lives. I see it this way: I need to focus on my life bc its the one im living. If im living someone elses life, something is wrong. I have to decide what to do with my life.

Personally, I think im at a crossroads. I have to make a decision to either be miserable and wallow in my misery or make some changes. What will those changes be? Is it something that will make me happy?

Part of me also wonders if in wishing for karmah so one will feel better that someone got their upcommance. But how happy would that make the wisher?

[This message edited by sullymeishadomi at 7:08 PM, September 7th (Saturday)]

Time to be my own bff.

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