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gahurts (original poster member #33699) posted at 1:39 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
I saw this on FB a few days ago and it really resonated with me. Yes I've been broken. Quite a few times. I feel like I've been smashed to bits and I own the parts that I caused or created myself.
We can only grow and get better after each set-back. I know when I was a regular in General, there were days when I felt like the world was coming to an end. SI helped me get through those and repaired me with the gold and silver to allow me to shine. I'm still fixing a bunch of rough edges but I am getting there.
For those of you just starting your journey through this shit sandwich you've been forced to eat, know that there is a better world on the other side. The only was to get out of hell is to go through it. Time, hard work (and prayer) really are the answers and they do work even if it doesn't seem like that right now. Be strong and hang in there and know that there is a community of your 40,000 closest friends you never wanted to meet always here to help prop you up when all you want to do is drop.
Thanks SI
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"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie
WhatsRight ( member #35417) posted at 1:42 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
VERY cool. There is no way to know how beautiful I will be when I get through all this!
Thank you.
"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt
I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy
inconnu ( member #24518) posted at 2:57 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
Excellent timing with this post, gahurts. It's certainly something I needed to see this weekend.
understanding that the piece is more beautiful for having been broken
I'm quickly coming up on a d-day anti-versary that I was sure was not going to affect me this year, but I was wrong. It hit me, and hit me hard, in a way I didn't expect. And I spent yesterday sinking into a pit where I ended up wallowing.
Only, part of what put me in that pit was coming across some old photos on my computer. And I had just taken a new photo of myself last weekend to change on my facebook profile. So I really had good examples of before and after to compare.
I'm pretty sure all the gold that has repaired my brokenness is shining through now.
There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown
gahurts (original poster member #33699) posted at 3:10 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
I'm pretty sure all the gold that has repaired my brokenness is shining through now
This is great. I hope your antiversary goes through fairly quickly and you can put it behind you soon.
"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie
solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 7:37 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
We can only grow and get better after each set-back.
I wish this were true, but it is not. Growing and getting better are a choice. And some people are not able to make that choice, for a variety of very real reasons.
You are fortunate that you have grown stronger and better.
I am, too.
But statements like this can be hurtful to those who really aren't there yet, or for whom life circumstances or mental/emotional vulnerabilities prevent constructively moving forward.
They exist. Sometimes, brokenness does not mend.
Still, I appreciate the sentiment, and recognize that making it known that the choice is available (for many/most) is helpful to those to whom it applies.
BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams
jasonguitarboy ( member #22939) posted at 9:54 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
This is how "we" felt, prior to my WWs last one year "love affair"..... I thought we were in the clear and stronger and better than before... she saw this as an opportunity to "fall in love" with someone else.
Shit sandwich, indeed. No matter how close you are, no matter how well you believe you know someone....
What doesn't kill us makes us stronger... right?
Me-BS 35
Her-WS 32 (surviving1979)
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