I can't really explain it other than to say its a way for the bs to gain emotional strength and distance, allowing them to make decisions from a clearer perspective in the wake of DDay.
It can be found in the bs FAQ of the healing library. I agree it's hard to find and it would be helpful for it to be listed as a separate article in an easier to find spot.
DD, only child
End of TT/Full Disclosure 07/08/13
Reconciling. A stronger marriage now.
Psalm 37. It rocks my world. So does 140. Big guy upstairs has got it all figured out.