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nowiknow23 (original poster member #33226) posted at 5:57 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
I've just started working with my IC on mindfulness. Fairly specifically for now on being present in the moment. It's intriguing and, even with the little work I've been doing so far, helpful in coping with the major stressors in my life.
IC has suggested some of the works of Jon Kabat-Zinn for reference. I've got those in my queue.
Anyone have experience with this and have any books you would recommend I either read or avoid?
Thanks in advance. 
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Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 7:55 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
Pema Chodron's "When things fall apart" is helpful for me. She has another one that I haven't started yet... I will get you the title when I get home later today. 
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persevere ( member #31468) posted at 9:15 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
I'm interested in hearing more about this - great post!
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metamorphisis ( member #12041) posted at 12:23 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
http://www.shambhala.org/teachers/pema/
I agree 100% with jrazz. In fact any of Pema's books at all would be perfect.
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knightsbff ( member #36853) posted at 9:00 AM on Saturday, September 14th, 2013
The Minfulness Solution by Ronald D Siegel.
Also there are some great apps that help with practicing mindfulness.
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nowiknow23 (original poster member #33226) posted at 3:05 PM on Saturday, September 14th, 2013
Thank you! Adding these to my reading queue.
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HardenMyHeart ( member #15902) posted at 6:12 AM on Monday, September 16th, 2013
IC has suggested some of the works of Jon Kabat-Zinn for reference.
I agree with your IC and would definitely start there.
As others have suggested, the Pema Chodron books are excellent; especially When Things Fall Apart
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nowiknow23 (original poster member #33226) posted at 3:35 PM on Wednesday, October 23rd, 2013
Started with "When Things Fall Apart." Big thumbs up so far.
Thanks for all the recommendations.
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LadyYoga ( member #28611) posted at 5:12 PM on Wednesday, October 23rd, 2013
You can also listen to free Pema Chodron Podcasts. I found them, and all of buddhism and mindfulness extremely helpful.
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HardenMyHeart ( member #15902) posted at 6:13 PM on Wednesday, October 23rd, 2013
Here is a short youtube video with Pema Chödrön describing why she became a Buddhist:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A4slnjvGjP4
Basically, she became a Buddhist because she hated her husband after he cheated on her and left her for the OW.
My wife has read many of Pema's books and has even attended one of her weekend retreats. It has really helped her become a happier person.
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nowiknow23 (original poster member #33226) posted at 9:05 PM on Wednesday, October 23rd, 2013
Thank you, momof3 and Harden.
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AFrayedKnot ( member #36622) posted at 12:05 AM on Thursday, October 24th, 2013
Deep and Simple. By BO Lozoff
Great book but out of print. You can find cheap used copies around
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nowiknow23 (original poster member #33226) posted at 12:23 AM on Thursday, October 24th, 2013
Fabulous! Gives me a reason to haunt my favorite used book stores.
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Compartmented ( member #29410) posted at 12:43 PM on Saturday, November 9th, 2013
The Miracle of Mindfulness, by Thich Nhat Hanh, is one I keep coming back to.
AFrayedKnot ( member #36622) posted at 3:55 PM on Saturday, November 9th, 2013
^^^ i just found "Peace is Every Step" by Thich Nhat Hanh on my bookshelf. Its been years since I read it but have fond memories. Time to revisit it I think.
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phmh ( member #34146) posted at 1:17 AM on Saturday, November 16th, 2013
So many posts already, but of course I had to respond!
I really liked "Search Inside Yourself" by a Google executive.
Also, there is a CD lecture series about practicing mindfulness -- your library may get them or may be able to use inter-library loan to get them: http://www.thegreatcourses.com/tgc/courses/course_detail.aspx?cid=1933
Yoga also helps, at least it did for me!
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