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nowiknow23 posted 9/8/2013 11:57 AM

I've just started working with my IC on mindfulness. Fairly specifically for now on being present in the moment. It's intriguing and, even with the little work I've been doing so far, helpful in coping with the major stressors in my life.

IC has suggested some of the works of Jon Kabat-Zinn for reference. I've got those in my queue.

Anyone have experience with this and have any books you would recommend I either read or avoid?

Thanks in advance.

Jrazz posted 9/8/2013 13:55 PM

Pema Chodron's "When things fall apart" is helpful for me. She has another one that I haven't started yet... I will get you the title when I get home later today.

persevere posted 9/8/2013 15:15 PM

I'm interested in hearing more about this - great post!

metamorphisis posted 9/8/2013 18:23 PM

http://www.shambhala.org/teachers/pema/

I agree 100% with jrazz. In fact any of Pema's books at all would be perfect.

knightsbff posted 9/14/2013 03:00 AM

The Minfulness Solution by Ronald D Siegel.

Also there are some great apps that help with practicing mindfulness.

nowiknow23 posted 9/14/2013 09:05 AM

Thank you! Adding these to my reading queue.

HardenMyHeart posted 9/16/2013 00:12 AM

IC has suggested some of the works of Jon Kabat-Zinn for reference.

I agree with your IC and would definitely start there.

As others have suggested, the Pema Chodron books are excellent; especially When Things Fall Apart

nowiknow23 posted 10/23/2013 09:35 AM

Started with "When Things Fall Apart." Big thumbs up so far.

Thanks for all the recommendations.

LadyYoga posted 10/23/2013 11:12 AM

You can also listen to free Pema Chodron Podcasts. I found them, and all of buddhism and mindfulness extremely helpful.

HardenMyHeart posted 10/23/2013 12:13 PM

Here is a short youtube video with Pema Chödrön describing why she became a Buddhist:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A4slnjvGjP4

Basically, she became a Buddhist because she hated her husband after he cheated on her and left her for the OW.

My wife has read many of Pema's books and has even attended one of her weekend retreats. It has really helped her become a happier person.

[This message edited by HardenMyHeart at 12:19 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday)]

nowiknow23 posted 10/23/2013 15:05 PM

Thank you, momof3 and Harden.

AFrayedKnot posted 10/23/2013 18:05 PM

Deep and Simple. By BO Lozoff

Great book but out of print. You can find cheap used copies around

nowiknow23 posted 10/23/2013 18:23 PM

Fabulous! Gives me a reason to haunt my favorite used book stores.

Compartmented posted 11/9/2013 06:43 AM

The Miracle of Mindfulness, by Thich Nhat Hanh, is one I keep coming back to.

AFrayedKnot posted 11/9/2013 09:55 AM

^^^ i just found "Peace is Every Step" by Thich Nhat Hanh on my bookshelf. Its been years since I read it but have fond memories. Time to revisit it I think.

phmh posted 11/15/2013 19:17 PM

So many posts already, but of course I had to respond!

I really liked "Search Inside Yourself" by a Google executive.

Also, there is a CD lecture series about practicing mindfulness -- your library may get them or may be able to use inter-library loan to get them: http://www.thegreatcourses.com/tgc/courses/course_detail.aspx?cid=1933

Yoga also helps, at least it did for me!