I haven't given him a time frame because I am sick of doing so.
He knows the divorce can be final as soon as the end of this month. And he knows that clock is ticking.
Part of it may be that he is still deciding exactly what he wants...I don't know, really.
Part of it is his personality and his lack of motivation or prioritizing...which was a huge issue in our marriage and one I will not continue to tolerate.
The divorce continues to progress. The only way it will not progress is if I see constant motivation by him-not just words, actions. I've told him this.
He is in IC. He is handling the money (first time ever), he is supposedly keeping his house clean (also first time), and has, for the most part, told me where he is/will be/has been and with who.
He sent OW an NC letter and he said he was blocking her phone through a certain app (iphones with imessage are tricky).
He said her # is blocked but she contacted him by email to his phone-he showed me the messages, they were about a play our son had auditioned for where she is the choreographer. I love small towns.
He also said he would go through his Facebook with me and delete anyone I asked-his idea. This has not yet happened yet, but it's currently deactivated.
Other than that...the situation is fluid.
Any other suggestions or advice?
[This message edited by myperfectlife at 5:08 PM, September 8th (Sunday)]