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User Topic: AP, who are they?
Lovedyoumore
♀ 35593
Member # 35593
Default  Posted: 4:00 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My friend was telling me about her son's divorce and her DIL "dating" while they were married. She does not know about my H's A. She was shocked because her DIL was being coaxed and pursued by a member of a fairly well known Christian band. I was telling her that AP come from every walk of life and profession.

As a poll, what does the OP in your life do for a living? We will do WS later.


Me 52
WH 52
Married 30+ years
Together trying to R

I tell people I am tired but really my heart is broken and I am sad.


Posts: 1585 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Southern, bless your heart
Lovedyoumore
♀ 35593
Member # 35593
Default  Posted: 4:01 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The OP in our life is/was a divinity school grad mainline denomination minister. Usually youth minister.


Me 52
WH 52
Married 30+ years
Together trying to R

I tell people I am tired but really my heart is broken and I am sad.


Posts: 1585 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Southern, bless your heart
musiclovingmom
♀ 38207
Member # 38207
Default  Posted: 4:08 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW1 - diner waitress (who claims to be a police officer)
OW2 - service representative for a car dealership
OW3 & 4 - idk, he found them on AFF
OW5 - preschool teacher persuing an elementary education degree

Posts: 1141 | Registered: Jan 2013
RightTrack
♀ 36976
Member # 36976
Default  Posted: 4:08 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

AP worked part-time, making coffee, answering phones and running errands for an accounting company. She wanted to be able to "devote time to her family" ha ha

Posts: 643 | Registered: Sep 2012
Blobette
♀ 36519
Member # 36519
Default  Posted: 4:09 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Production manager, business school grad


BS (me): 50
WS: 50
Married: 26 yrs
Kids: 2
OW: Co-worker, 7 yr LTA
DD 8/1/2012, Working on R

Posts: 1061 | Registered: Aug 2012
soveryweary
♀ 32265
Member # 32265
Default  Posted: 4:20 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Main OW - elementary school secretary, now works at a bank.

EA#1- extremely successful business owner ( who sent him pictures of her boobs and a graphic picture of herself on a vibrator)

EA#2- his old work secretary now unemployed

[This message edited by soveryweary at 4:22 PM, September 8th (Sunday)]


Divorced 1/3/14

Posts: 628 | Registered: May 2011
Tripletrouble
♀ 39169
Member # 39169
Default  Posted: 4:25 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Idk, there were about 50. Sometimes I envy those of you who know who the enemy was.


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller


Posts: 638 | Registered: May 2013
SoAngryAndHurt
♀ 40150
Member # 40150
Default  Posted: 4:29 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Stay at home mom - mother of 3. Their family goes to church every Sunday together. Its lovely


Me BW 41
Him WH 35
2 kiddos elementary school age
Married 11 years
05/20/13 let the rugsweeping & TT begin
07/01/13 finally!! The whole truth. Admits to EA/PA

Posts: 79 | Registered: Aug 2013
scaredyKat
♀ 25560
Member # 25560
Default  Posted: 4:32 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW#1 unemployed
OW#2 paralegal turned hooker/porn actress
OW#3 school janitor
OW ETC strippers


Me-BS-60
HIM-SAFWH-63
Damn autocorrect is responsible for the silly errors, sorry!

Posts: 3778 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: In my head
quoththeraven1
♂ 35458
Member # 35458
Default  Posted: 4:33 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Minister

Posts: 166 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Appalachia
naivewife
♀ 38375
Member # 38375
Default  Posted: 4:36 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Essentially unemployed, but was a pharmacologist who was paid by her psychiatrist mother to be her "assistant." Assistant means lay in bed all day popping Cymbalta and have affairs and take advantage in any way possible of her mothers psyc patients.

[This message edited by naivewife at 4:37 PM, September 8th (Sunday)]


D-day #1 - 1/23/13
false R, then...
D-day #2 - 3/26/13
I will come for the benefit of the sick, remaining free of all intentional injustice, of all mischief and in particular of sexual relations with both female and male persons. - Hippocratic Oath

Posts: 342 | Registered: Feb 2013
sullymeishadomi
♀ 16305
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Default  Posted: 4:37 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She is an administrative assistant in a large pharmaceutical company (Not one of ours Iif you get my drift. And I just realised the irony that im anti-drug company lol)
At night she tends bar at a place on wh route home. I was told the bar is a skanky place with bad food and bad service. The owners/mgrs are said to be of questionable character. Everytime I have passed it it has had plenty (not a lot) of cars in its parking lot

[This message edited by sullymeishadomi at 4:41 PM, September 8th (Sunday)]


People tell you exactly who they are...why expect them to be what they are not ....will be divorcing the selfish creep.

Posts: 8471 | Registered: Sep 2007
dameia
♀ 36072
Member # 36072
Default  Posted: 4:37 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW 1-16 - Whores in Thailand
OW #17 - CoWorker, M at the time although now D. Works in computer security, also ex-service member. She was feeling "insecure" after getting out of the military, obviously fucking my H was going to help with that.


Me: BS
D-Day: 7/7/12

Trust is like paper. Once it's crumpled it can never be perfect again.


Posts: 1199 | Registered: Jul 2012
OnAnIsland
♀ 34319
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Default  Posted: 4:43 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

MarriedOW- MBA wielding, international (tech and green sector specialty) business consultant. The international was key to staging serendipitous trips to places near us....


D-day: Christmas 2011
D-day 2: 3/28/2013

Married for over 15 years
2 beautiful boys in elementary school

You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Maya Angelou


Posts: 1479 | Registered: Dec 2011
letitout
♀ 38288
Member # 38288
Default  Posted: 4:44 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Prostitute 1,2,3?

Prostitute 4: a whole year of therapy she was a social worker.

Prostitute 5: A sous chef in a high class restaurant. She sure cooked my H ass for another year.


BW 55, WH 64
2 years of prostitutes.

Posts: 283 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: California
Chefj9
♀ 38604
Member # 38604
Default  Posted: 4:45 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW #1 Finance Manager at the company he worked for at the time.
OW #2 unemployed skank friend from HS
OW #3 Manager at a large food company over one of the beverage divisions.


ME - BS 50, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 25, 15, 15 and 12
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/13/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere

Posts: 472 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Texas
standingonmarble
♀ 31217
Member # 31217
Default  Posted: 5:01 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Physical Therapist and assistant and a nurse.

All walks of life.


At one time he was a man standing on marbles. Now I am a woman standing on marble.....

We are done fighting with each other and decide to fight FOR each other.


Posts: 739 | Registered: Feb 2011
jasonguitarboy
♂ 22939
Member # 22939
Default  Posted: 5:03 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OM #1- guy from her group of friends.

OM #2- My coworker, close friend and spiritual mentor.

OM #3- Former coworker of mine, I got her a job at my shop and then I found a better job. He wanted her to "go for a drive" she said no a couple times then was "curious" enough to go one day. Thus began her one year affair with a man she couldn't even talk to due to language barior.

Exactly what does it take to learn boundaries? Cuz destroying my world obviously wasn't enough.


What doesn't kill us makes us stronger.....right?
"And there's a change, that even with regret, cannot be undone."
"No one plans to take the path that leads us lower..."
Me-BS 35
Her-WS 32 (surviving1979)

Posts: 189 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: nowhere
Zayda1
♀ 35387
Member # 35387
Default  Posted: 5:04 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The AP is a mother of 4 and an elementary school teacher.

She also used to teach the marriage courses at her church.


Married 9 years, together for 11 years
2 children (7 years & 4 years)
Discovery of PA 04/15/12 (It only lasted a "couple of weeks" but it still shattered my world.)

Posts: 468 | Registered: Apr 2012
shatteredheart7
♀ 39734
Member # 39734
Default  Posted: 5:09 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Skanky whore is a twice divorced single mother of 3 adult kids and 1 young daughter. Her youngest was conceived on the day her last divorce became final, it was how she and her ex celebrated being divorced.
She works from home. Something to do with accounting and her mom got her the job is all I know.It obviously left her with lots of time to devote to my H. She also lives in a house owned by her mother, and drives a car that is about to fall apart. Gotta love when the AP is looking for someone to make their life easier financially.


Me~40
FWH~46
Married 8yrs
Together 11 1/2
Me~ 3 kids, 21,17,14
Him~no kids
A with a mutual "friend" for 2+yrs
He confessed 9/9/12
A was over 2/12
7/13~ Happier than we have been in yrs!

Posts: 240 | Registered: Jul 2013
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