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so, I've been sitting on my pity pot

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 imagoodwitch (original poster member #23375) posted at 11:57 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013

Been feeling really down lately.

Sitting back and evaluating things.

After a few posts I have read made me think of some things.

First, it really pisses me off the OW had a window into my life, one that I didn't know about, that my WS put there, where he filled her full of lies about how just awful I was as a person and wife.

Fucker.

It sucks that someone that I don't know, who doesn't know me thinks I'm just a horrible person in general.

I know, I know, I shouldn't let it bother me, but it does. I'm like that, wish I could change that.

Well today, I realized I AM FUCKING AWESOME!

Wanna know why?

I made Risotto from scratch! FROM SCRATCH!

Also, I painted my DS22's bedroom! And did a primo job, so primo I could paint houses for a living!

So ya know what?

Fuck you OW!

You don't know me and if you did you would want to be around me but I think you are a skanky ho and wouldn't want you in my zip code!

My WS is lucky he has a wife as awesome as me!

So my point is, if this A shit starts getting you down, just remember YOU ARE AWESOME!

You have talents and gifts that make you that way.

Don't let anyone steal your sunshine.

Ordinary average everyday sane psycho super goddess

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canteat ( member #39636) posted at 12:24 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013

YAY YOU!!

p.s. the risotto thing made me hungry! lol

Me: BW 42
Him: WH 47
Married 9 years-together 18
Dday: 6/17/2013 EA/PA(EA 1yr/PA 6mos-OW out of state)
status: Starting R 7/22/13

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Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 12:27 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013

Thank you I needed that today.

And you are f*ucking awesome!

I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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 imagoodwitch (original poster member #23375) posted at 12:32 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013

canteat, if you were here you would want to eat 'cause its Risotto and it was delicious.

K, you are awesome, don't ever forget that, ever.

Ordinary average everyday sane psycho super goddess

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shatteredheart7 ( member #39734) posted at 12:33 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013

Exactly!

Some things I like to remember

1. I am an awesome cook. My dh has always bragged on me for that. (She couldn't boil water)

2. I keep a clean house. (Her house smells like a dirty litter box, seriously you can smell it from outside)

3. I am crafty. I love making things and refurbishing antiques. (She wouldn't know which end of a paintbrush to use)

4. I am a very devoted mother. I am very involved in everything my kids do. (She left her infant daughter in a burning house and her 10 yr old son had to go in and save her)

5. People like me, they gravitate towards me. (Most people just tolerate her)

6. My kids love me (her adult kids have nothing to do with her)

7. My husband loves me. She tried to get him to leave me for her but no matter what she did or said he still wanted me.

Me~40
FWH~46
Married 8yrs
Together 11 1/2
Me~ 3 kids, 21,17,14
Him~no kids
A with a mutual "friend" for 2+yrs
He confessed 9/9/12
A was over 2/12
7/13~ Happier than we have been in yrs!

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caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 12:36 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013

First, it really pisses me off the OW had a window into my life, one that I didn't know about, that my WS put there

This is a beautiful description of something that has bothered me a great deal but I have never put into words. I am a very private person. And even the private truths that were shared without my permission or knowledge bother me a great deal.

((hugs)) to you although perhaps HIGH FIVES are more apt given that you are a strong AWESOME kickass woman who rocks!!

Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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 imagoodwitch (original poster member #23375) posted at 12:45 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013

I am very private too and it bothers me to no end that he shared stuff with her in addition to making me out to being a horrible person, which by the way he will deny to this very day but I saw the email.

That was a deep cut, it still bothers me obviously.

It's treason as far as I'm concerned.

Ordinary average everyday sane psycho super goddess

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