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Flatlined123 (original poster member #35862) posted at 1:39 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
H and I were talking in the car today and I asked him what he would do if he ever felt the way he did before the affair happened again. How does he know he won't do it again?
His answer was: No matter what, I will never hurt you like that again. I've seen you struggle with the pain I caused and nothing is worth doing that to you again. I hurt myself too. I don't ever want either one of us to go through this again.
I think we're getting there. 
Me: BS H: WS4 kids DD #1 7-11-08DD#2 8-21-09 same OW, A never ended.Started R in 12-09"If what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, I should be able to bench press a Buick."
MovingUpward ( member #14866) posted at 1:42 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
AFrayedKnot ( member #36622) posted at 1:54 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
Wow. You have some good stuff going on lately. It so nice to hear.
BS 48fWS 44 (SurprisinglyOkay)DsD DSA whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better."Knowing is half the battle"
authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 2:12 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
Mr. Flatlined is 'getting it'.
Happy for both of you! 
DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.
shatteredheart7 ( member #39734) posted at 2:17 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
Me~40
FWH~46
Married 8yrs
Together 11 1/2
Me~ 3 kids, 21,17,14
Him~no kids
A with a mutual "friend" for 2+yrs
He confessed 9/9/12
A was over 2/12
7/13~ Happier than we have been in yrs!
Flatlined123 (original poster member #35862) posted at 2:47 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
I know, right Chicho? It's been so nice to see and hear the things from him. I feel like the hard work is finally paying off.
Me: BS H: WS4 kids DD #1 7-11-08DD#2 8-21-09 same OW, A never ended.Started R in 12-09"If what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, I should be able to bench press a Buick."
emotionalgirl ( member #40184) posted at 4:03 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
1st D day: Saturday July 20,2013
2nd D day....when the s**t really hit the fan and the truth came out.Saturday August 3,2013
3rd D day: Friday August 16, 2013...NC sent Friday Aug 30 4th D day NOV 11
Me: BS
Him: WH
Married 25 years....finally in R
nekorb ( member #40306) posted at 4:24 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman
TxsT ( member #39996) posted at 5:31 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
We had the very same conversation this afternoon. We had stopped for a picnic in the mountains on our way home from celebrating our 25th anniversary. I chose a beautiful spot over looking the glacier river. We had champagne, cheese, grapes......and just us. My H said that this whole event has opened his eyes so wide. So much was unknown to him before the A. He didn't know how much I was missing our marriage and how much pain I was carrying. My courage and strength have made him see how horribly wrong he had been. He too said he will never hurt me that way again....he had no idea that this much hurt could be endured. He also said he is a very lucky man that I have wanted to put this behind us. It was a beautiful moment for me. I felt all my hard work had finally rewarded me.
T
Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)
Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!
Flatlined123 (original poster member #35862) posted at 10:52 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
T, I'm so glad for you both.
It's nice to have a little peace in our lives.
Me: BS H: WS4 kids DD #1 7-11-08DD#2 8-21-09 same OW, A never ended.Started R in 12-09"If what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, I should be able to bench press a Buick."
catlover50 ( member #37154) posted at 2:17 PM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
Dday -9/23/2012
Reconciled
TxsT ( member #39996) posted at 7:53 PM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
Flat.....it is nice that we are both seeing the product of all of our hard work. I don't care if you are a BS or a WS, getting to positive is wonderful.
T
Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)
Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!
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