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Flatlined123 posted 9/8/2013 19:39 PM

H and I were talking in the car today and I asked him what he would do if he ever felt the way he did before the affair happened again. How does he know he won't do it again?

His answer was: No matter what, I will never hurt you like that again. I've seen you struggle with the pain I caused and nothing is worth doing that to you again. I hurt myself too. I don't ever want either one of us to go through this again.

I think we're getting there.

MovingUpward posted 9/8/2013 19:42 PM

AFrayedKnot posted 9/8/2013 19:54 PM

Wow. You have some good stuff going on lately. It so nice to hear.

authenticnow posted 9/8/2013 20:12 PM

Mr. Flatlined is 'getting it'.

Happy for both of you!

shatteredheart7 posted 9/8/2013 20:17 PM

Flatlined123 posted 9/8/2013 20:47 PM

I know, right Chicho? It's been so nice to see and hear the things from him. I feel like the hard work is finally paying off.

emotionalgirl posted 9/8/2013 22:03 PM

nekorb posted 9/8/2013 22:24 PM

That's awesome!

TxsT posted 9/8/2013 23:31 PM

We had the very same conversation this afternoon. We had stopped for a picnic in the mountains on our way home from celebrating our 25th anniversary. I chose a beautiful spot over looking the glacier river. We had champagne, cheese, grapes......and just us. My H said that this whole event has opened his eyes so wide. So much was unknown to him before the A. He didn't know how much I was missing our marriage and how much pain I was carrying. My courage and strength have made him see how horribly wrong he had been. He too said he will never hurt me that way again....he had no idea that this much hurt could be endured. He also said he is a very lucky man that I have wanted to put this behind us. It was a beautiful moment for me. I felt all my hard work had finally rewarded me.

T

Flatlined123 posted 9/9/2013 04:52 AM

T, I'm so glad for you both.

It's nice to have a little peace in our lives.

catlover50 posted 9/9/2013 08:17 AM

TxsT posted 9/9/2013 13:53 PM

Flat.....it is nice that we are both seeing the product of all of our hard work. I don't care if you are a BS or a WS, getting to positive is wonderful.

T