So yes I do seek counseling. Yes I do try to surround myself with positive people. Yes I live a positive life. Yes I focus on my mental and physical health. So I'm doing all the right things. But just recently (like hours ago) I was blown away.
I would call over to the place where my cheating ex stays with my kids. My middle child's voice is on the answering machine. I heard it before but I never paid close attention because he would mumble. But tonight I listened carefully and I heard
"You reached the <her maiden> residence...."
(When living together we never had a voice mail message)
I've always heard rumors that my teens were saying they've changed their last name but I thought the mother would have the decency to talk to them.
To add to it. The school year has started and we have logins to check our children's grades. All 3 of them. So I sent my ex the form to fill out to get the new login. I've always had the login. So I emailed her several times asking has she received it yet. Never got a response. So after hearing the distrubing answering machine I called and asked did she receive the login?
Her response was "I did"
So I then say can I have it?
Her response was "<our 16 year old daughter> does not want me to have it"
WOW!!!! Just stripping Dad away
Yes, my only recourse is legal. But man I wouldn't think people would act this way. How naive was I. I heard and read about it. But for some reason I never thought it was real. Now I see.