Me (BW): 33
WH and I were talking tonight and discovered that he's been stringing me along for the entire relationship (right up until DDay). Basically he didn't really *want* me, but didn't have any other women banging down his door, so he says he just "went through the motions" and 6 1/2 years later, here we are...a marriage, home, and two kids later!
He's been in denial over the whole thing but is finally opening up and realizing these things. He told me that NOW (since DDay) he really wants me, but I'm like, "WTF? You've been telling me all along that you want me, and I believed you! Now you want me to continue believing you and just *hope* that you're telling me the truth this time?!?"
He says he's trying to change his behaviors. I told him that if I was atheist, but was attending church every Sunday, does that mean I'm a Christian? He said no, it doesn't change your core belief system. I replied that I believe that's what's happening now...that he's trying to fake his way through it again, which will set us up for a future disaster.
What would you guys do with this information?
SAFWH (1DumbHusband): 37
Married 7 years with 2 beautiful kiddos
BIG D-Day: June 17th, 2013
Too many freaking TTs that nearly cost us our marriage; currently in reconciliation.
"Love isn't a feeling, it's a decision."