My husband lied for years without my knowledge (no suspicion). My first D-day was July 2012. He lied for nine months until April 2013 about there being other women besides the one I found out about.
There is a non-blood (but known his whole life -step dad's niece) "cousin" that text him, "I miss you" and smiley faces at 1 and 2am facebook messages saying how are you, i miss you, etc. He swears on his life that it is innocent and he is affended that I would think something about his cousin. I logged onto his facebook and sent her a smiley face pretending to be my husband. She sent a smiley back and we began to talk. I asked what she thought about me (as my husband) and she eluded that I was special, but stated I'm married. I asked if I (my husband) had ever given her an idea that I would be interested. She said no. She went on to say she sensed something about our marriage and my wife (me). I asked what. She said a lot of really harsh things about me thining I was my husband. Pretending to be him still, I asked, "have you ever had a converstaion with my wife or a conversation with me about my wife." She replies, "no, but you cheated on her right... I know you are unhappy, it's not your fault, i know it's her, etc." FYI: my husband is best friends with her brother. I told her that I was offended by her statements and disd not appreciate her judgemental attitude. She became very defensive and asked why I was attacking her when i'm the one who asked her to open up. she then said that she was going to tell her brother that I came on to her and insulted her by beleiving she was interested. I forwarded the conversation to my husband's email. By this time, she had called her brother. He called my husband. She must have gotten from her brother that i was pretending to be my husband, so she sent me a really nasty fb message.
My husband says he never talked to her about us or me, which she confirmed while I was pretending to be him. She also confirmed that he had never came on to her. However, I beleive she wanted him and it's bothering me that him and his brother say she was just playing and trying to see where the conversation was going. WHY would she entertain that? Why was she so negative towards me and had so much to say about me? Why would she think it is appropriate to fb him at 1 and 2am and text message him smiley faces and "i miss yous." Am I overreacting/crazy or is there something there?