I think, if a person is in reconciliation, that they make a choice to be reconciled and every day weigh their actions on this choice. My husband is doing this. I am not.
He went to a business golf event, garnered some business for himself, and win two tix for us to a football game. I said that's great, how'd you golf, what did you have for supper? And then a while later told him that all this was at the expense if his wife, that I don't know if the OW will be there or if he'll tell me if he sees them. He was very open and honest about the golfing and who he was with and checked in several times during the day.
But I was still a little anxious. He said these ppl are no longer threats. I said I don't know that. That its going to take years to build trust again.
He came over and hugged me and told me I was worth putting up with my affair and he made that choice. Could I please make a choice as it isn't fair to him that he is honest and shares and then gets " yelled at" like a child? I said probably not but I don't know what to do and I'm just sharing how I feel...,,
I said I have to make that choice every day..
And I said you didn't make that choice for a while either mrrachelc....
I cannot bite it off yet. Will anything he does ever be good enough?
[This message edited by rachelc at 8:44 PM, September 9th (Monday)]