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When you are feeling what helps you?

Thank you!

Dancing

A hug and an "I love you mom" from my son does wonders.

Time alone. Sometimes I stare at the wall, sometimes I clean a little, sometimes I organize things. Sometimes I watch dumb tv or read or play numb games on my ipad.

Being alone lets me center.

Different things, but I need to be alone. Stupid computer games. Singing. Cooking. Sleeping.

Wandering alone in nature following what draws my curiosity.

Meditation.

The words of spiritual people who have attained peace and equanimity.

Hoop dancing.

[This message edited by InnerLight at 10:02 PM, September 9th (Monday)]

An intense workout.

A good night's sleep.

A distraction - to put the stressor into perspective. Sometimes that is time with friends, or a movie, or shopping.

Church.

Depends. Things that work for me...

I have little time alone but what I do have is like gold. I either read or goof off on my tablet (damn you, level 79 on Candy Crush!).

Zumba, yoga...just gym time in general.

Time with good friends... ones who really know me.

Quiet.

Driving with the music cranked.

It all depends.

[This message edited by wildbananas at 10:23 PM, September 9th (Monday)]

Hitting the gym. I just turn on the music and get after it.

Actually the gym was recommended by my dr as a replacement for ADs. There have been many studies that have shown intense workouts can have just as beneficial effects on things like anxiety, depression and even restful sleep.

I get pretty serious about my gym though, all notepads and tracking lol. But it gives me that thing I always have that I can control. And a time I don't have any other concerns.

Getting out into nature or practicing my yoga. Both are pretty much the only forms of meditation that I can muster, but they work.

I used to be able to include spending time with my dogs, but sadly, that's no longer an option.

Running or cross stitching

Riding, music, exercise, my boys, football (yay!),friends, my wonderful SO.

Walk, journal, bounce things off one or two friends.

Prayer, inspirational readings, moving my body in some activity.

Finding a bit of peace and quiet. It's hard to find it though.

Reading, talking to friends, housework, treadmill, games (yeah, right now it is candy crush for me too! OH, and plants vs zombies!!!)

Very long walks, talking things out with friends, taking my kids to eat Fro-Yo . Just being outside helps lighten my mood...I can just sit on my deck and watch the world go by and sometimes that helps.

In the early days after S, it was reading. It kept my mind occupied.

I breathe. No matter where I am or what is happening around me, I can always control my breathing and find my center. It grounds me.

The gym and when that doesn't work usually just some time to sit down by myself and figure out what is actually bothering me and work through it.

Nature, meditation, baking, reading fiction

If the is self imposed: list making of the things that I'm avoiding that are making me cuz that is usually what brings it out in me...avoidance

All that stuff.

And Xanax.