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Doubts posted 9/10/2013 02:41 AM

Has anyone gotten to the point where they don't know what the next step is? I can't seem to find what out what I should be doing, so I am doing nothing. WH can't (won't) remember details of A. Not sure of my feelings or what to do next. I tried 180. No talking at all. I don't want to give up because he wants to R. How long does this phase last? We are going to MC and I am not getting better in some ways, but I am not crying as often.

EasyDoesIt posted 9/10/2013 02:43 AM

Have you considered doing something for yourself outside of the marriage like a yoga class? Planting a flower bed? Refinishing an old piece of furniture? Scrapbook? Just something to take you out of neutral. I think that it's important to realize you are a separate being who needs to be tended to.

StruckNumb posted 9/10/2013 03:00 AM

Sigh, I'm going through the same and my IC just recommended doing something outside of trying to save this marriage. Some class in something I like, yoga, yes, gardening, something just for yourself. If you can find the energy for it because this is pretty much hell on earth.

Doubts posted 9/10/2013 07:01 AM

I have tried a few projects (Scrapbooking,crocheting,quilting), but they end up unfinished in my sewing room. I then feel guilty for losing interest in them. I need to suck it up somehow and move forward.

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