OK, so since D-Day my wife and I have been in recovery, going to MC and IC. She has observed NC with OM. Recently however, she told me that someone keeps calling her phone and will not leave a message. This morning, I called him from an alternate number and discovered it was the OM. He changed his phone number.
My wife's A had ended in late May 2013. I had full discovery on August 20th. During the discovery process, I found the NC letters written to the OM as she broke off the relationship - literally telling him to "fuck off or face death." This guy changed his number and has been trying to contact her daily for the past week.
He doesn't realize it was me who contacted him through the other number. We are in the process of changing HER phone number as I write this.
The question is - do I confront him? Do I tell him to leave her and us alone? Or do I simply change her phone number and not bother? I'm afraid that if I met him - and I did meet him in different pretense before discovery - it would get physically violent.
Should I call or text the guy? If I change her number does it even matter?
Please any help and support is appreciated. I don't want to repeat mistakes that some of you have had. I'm grateful that I have the support of BS community here.