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To follow up on the post about AP coming from all walks of life, even from a Christian music band, let's start the poll on WS and their life professions. Include how they met if AP, you wish.

Mr. Lovedyoumore: sales executive for a large national company. Had involvement sitting on several non profit boards.

They met when OW quit her ministry job to volunteer at one of the nonprofits because she saw him talking about it on TV. They had one incidental meeting months earlier at a fundraiser.

Mr. Fragile Ego: financial advisor for large national bank. Sits on one non profit board and has foundation for education.
Personal philosophy from Zig Ziglar - If you are not where you want to be in life, then you haven't helped enough people in theirs.

Not really one AP just ONS on business trips and then moved on to hook-up web-sites and call girls. Was probably having an EA with a client but I think that has fizzled.

My WH is a gymnastics coach who met the most recent PA was a mom that he met at one of the meets while he was out of town.

Meet season starts in January and needless to say I'm freaking out...just realized that this was probably my trigger in shutting him out this past sunday

SAHM who was bored apparently.

Culinary worker

During the time of the A's he was a member of the military, and then a computer security specialist.

DH works in the lab at a well known Chemical Plant.

He met skanky whore at the bowling alley. They had bowled in the same league for about 10 yrs before the A. When the A started he had switched to her team, with her mom. He quit bowling after a couple months on her team. He says now he quit bowling because she was stalkerish... really dumbass... and you kept going back?

My WS is a manager at a plumbing supply company. The AP is the office manager. She still works at the company, but in a different building about an hour away. They have to correspond daily for business. This of course makes the triggers happen regularly.

X worked in software QA. OW was his cousin --she and her kids were staying with us after the death of her husband.

He is now a chronically unemployed deadbeat loser who is mooching off OW. Boy did she win a prize or what?

SAHM who was bored apparently.

This ^^^^^^^^^. Volunteered for several charities too.

Mr Wonderful is a Museum Mrg. Skank is a housekeeper in said museum. And yes he is her boss. She is in a union. Cause I wanted her ass fired. Her husband also works there. Oh I hate that place. I call it Peyton Place.

He held a few positions at various companies, but wasn't where he 'felt' (entitlement?) he should be...but that was everyone else's fault -generally it had to do with materials and supply management. He was a frustrated child, he 'acted out' by posting profiles on various dating sites, FB apps, and phone hook up sites. The results are now part of my history.

To find some good in all of the turmoil, I have to give him props for pursuing his college education, receiving his degree, being on the presidents list, moving up through the ranks of a community service group, committing a year of EMDR therapy to figure out his FOO issue, and working hard to receive his various professional certifications and to be a recognized and approved instructor in them. For all intents and purposes, he is a rock star in his field. Good for him, right? I wish there was that commitment and effort focused on our marriage.

WH was a SAHD during first affair - not because he desperately wanted to, but because he was finishing university, and I had to go back to work so we could eat.

He was a shift supervisor for the second two - they were guards. One on his team, and one not.

Truck driver. He wasn't even over the road for 8 months before he started his EA. Somehow, I feel like I should have known better, given our history and the industry.

Mr EveryoneThinksHe’sAcatch – Professional field, holds a masters degree– is always there for everyone and goes out of his way to do for others. Your typical nice-guy who your parents want you to marry and all your girlfriends envy.

OW – his secretary.

XWF: college student, worked at blockbuster.

He met OW in one of his classes.

DD's Dad: used to work at a bank. After he and I broke up, he got fired and now he works part time at a cleaning company.

He met OW 6 years before he and I met. He and OW dated for 4 years, and broke up 2 years before he and I met.

He had other OW's- some of whom were also ex's of his, and some of whom he met on dating websites.

WH: he is an auto mechanic. He is an assistant manager at his shop.

He found his OW's on craigslist.

XWH: musician who also does music-related computer work but is currently working on a grad degree in another field.

He met the AP on Ashley Madison. 'Nuff said.

XWBF owns his own auto repair garage. Finds his damsels in distress at work.
He gives them a break on the bill and they give him all the attention his NPD could ever think of...hood of the car, back seats and lets not forget the bathroom floor of the garage (barf)