DH and I love to go to dirt track races. We have 5 different tracks close enough to our house to go on a regular basis. We have a blast. It is one of the best times we have together, well.. with our clothes on anyway.
We also are very involved in the HS Marching band since my 2DD's are in the band. Going to football games and competitions is so awesome. If you like music and have a competition near you, check one out some time!
We also have woods behind our house where we take vintage trail bikes and go riding.
So what do you do for fun now that you didn't do before the A?
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We started with Lost, then went to Modern Family, Parks and Rec, Dexter, and now Breaking Bad. Next up will be Game of Thrones, I think.
Trust is like paper. Once it's crumpled it can never be perfect again.
yoga (till i hurt my wrist and my doc made me stop ) but we are going to replace it with a different exercise routine
instead of his or her household projects, we do the projects together now. While i am not much use when it comes to cleaning the garage (ewww, creepy crawly things)...i can certainly stand there, supervise and hand him his cold beer!! LOL
We also make more of an effort to go out on date nights regularly...doing different things that we havent in the past. for example, I bought groupons to a food show where we watched cooking demos and sampled food....we try to cook more meals together now!!
-golf....hubby is a 4 handicap and has wanted me to join him on the links our whole married life. I did that this spring and we have a great time together in the evenings. Even going to e corporate a few golf trips into our schedule
-bike riding in the mountains. I love road riding but my H was never interested in giving up a whole day to this effort. I stopped doing it not wanting to be alone on national highways or in the wilderness myself. We have since done one half day ride with a picnic at the end to celebrate. He had more fun then he thought.
-group home projects....had stopped working together on these and now do them all together. Builds cooperation and communication
-spontaneous activities.....before we had to plan EVERYTHING. Now we just run with the weekends. One day is for us to do things together and one is our rejuvenate days where we are allowed to focus on ourselves individually without creating ill feelings.
-movie night has returned....love snuggling in the show with hot popcorn between us.
Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!
One new "fun" activity is that at least once a week we take a bath together (two person tub). I have strung colored lights around the tub, have candles, music, bubbles, wine. It's lovely.
And, we have a lot more sex! That's fun!
We're also pretty young so we're very active outside working out biking, running or swimming.
we go to sporting events and like to travel.
we don't eat out but we do sometimes go to movies and have popcorn for dinner!
It's been fun watching our kids grow and choose careers, finish school.
We actually did all this pre A and during the A. Which is probably why I was blindsided. I thought life was pretty fun, but obviously it wasn't enough.
We went back to the things that initially brought us together in the first place; bike riding, gardening, exercise, boating, fishing, boating, fishing, boating...
And sitting home at night, having dinner together, watching a bit of TV, or reading, or him playing games on his computer while I talk here.
Sex is a rather nice, regular occurrence as well!
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Sex is a rather nice, regular occurrence as well!
Okay, let's see....we just started watching Breaking Bad, I will watch football, yoga once/week and we have decided that we need to do something that neither of us excels at but the interest is there ie: dance or cooking lessons.
Always good to start these posts sh7!
So, once again, still, we are going out and doing all those things. We run a 24/7 business together so getting away has always been an issue and working together is hard on a couple, you tend to fall into a rut with the daily grind, but we did get a long weekend away to Vegas in July and are going to St Lucia in January (slow times for our biz).
We get along much better when we can get away from the biz, and, since my part of it is working from my home office, getting out of the house is crucial for me. We may even catch a Broncos football game in a few weeks. We used to have to pinch pennies but these days I am trying to enjoy life more. We don't go too crazy though, just good to get out.
2 grown sons, 1 grown step-son
Last DDay, March 19, 2013 after a few weeks of TT- trying to have a new marriage after almost 35 years.
No more chances.
We spend time with friends and their kids. We watch TV together but that's not so much "fun" as it is relaxing.
Divorced and remarried to XBH
First child (daughter) born February 2016
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Last year, he started taking me to the range and I learned how to fire a gun. We actually had a lot of fun doing that, and I hope we can start going again. We got busy with the holiday season, and then his affair took off full steam ahead after that...sad but true...his affair pushed everything to the sidelines for awhile.
I hope we can start building new hobbies together...thanks for the inspiration on this thread!
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