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User Topic: Personal cell phones at work
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Default  Posted: 11:49 AM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pet peeve of the day!!!!!
I don't want to hear your stupid ringer going off as you walk down the hall, sit in a meeting, or work in my office!
Turn your damn phone down and let your personal calls wait until you have completed your task in my office! I don't care to listen to what your dinner plans are, whether you picked up her prescriptions, or where the cat vomited.

Unless someone in being transported by ambulance, hang up the cell phone.

Rant over. Carry on.

Me(BS)45(at the time of D-day)

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No longer waiting for the other "she" to drop.

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Default  Posted: 1:33 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh I so agree with you Yewtree.

WTH happened to the days of only taking/having personal calls in case of emergencies. Now people are checking their phones all the dang time, and it's just flipping rude to have it on anything but silent in the work environment.

My kids know, You don't call me at work unless the house is on fire, or some is bleeding - profusely.

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Posts: 13435 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
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Default  Posted: 3:02 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


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Default  Posted: 6:30 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The only no-no in my office is for your cell to go off during a meeting with upper-level admins. Then again, most of us just use chat clients or office phones for our personal calls.

ETA: I should probably add that my job doesn't involve working with customers or even set hours. As long as I get my projects delivered on time, I could work 3 hours a day and then write code at home in the wee hours. Our rules are probably a reflection of that dynamic.

[This message edited by wincing_at_light at 6:34 PM, September 10th (Tuesday)]

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Posts: 6994 | Registered: Apr 2007 | From: Indiana
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Default  Posted: 8:38 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We've been told (warned?) that if we have our phone out on the floor it will result in a 3 day suspension - the first time. It's posted that no cell phones or headphones are to be used at work unless it's break time or lunch and even then it has to be in the hall or outside. If we receive a call outside those times we're to take it in the hall. Of course there's bound to be at least one person who thinks the rules don't apply to them. I personally leave mine in my purse untill I hit the hall or outside and it's usually to check the time or to send a quick text to the H.

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Default  Posted: 9:26 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In my line of work my cell phone is my lifeline, however, we are very cognizant of phone etiquette - phone is always on vibrate - especially during any sort of meeting or conference call. I only take it off vibrate, and then lower the volume, if I'm expecting a call, typically a work related call.

In this day and age, it is just common courtesy.

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♀ 6850
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Default  Posted: 9:56 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am a nurse and it has become my "pet peeve" at work that staff have their cell phones in their pockets out on the me it is not appropriate to be texting, surfing and talking at a patient's bedside!!!
I don't care if they want to be "antisocial" and bury their face in their phone at break time, so many of them do it, but when we are working with patients it's not right!!!
I turn my cell phone off when I go in the building and don't turn it back on until I leave 12 hrs later. My kids have always known if they have an emergency or really need me they can call the floor and I will get to the phone.
Cell phones have really been injected into so many situations. Not all of them are appropriate!

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Default  Posted: 10:10 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I work for a large bank, in a fairly autonomous division. There really are no personal cell phone rules, although the higher up the chain you are, the more likely you use it for business purposea so there is more leniency at that level. People like admin assistants can use them, but it's more likely to raise eyebrows if someone like that is on theirs all day.

I keep my cell phone on my desk, with my ringer off while I work. I am not much of a phone talker, so it hardly rings anyway, but I do get texts and emails a lot during the day and don't want it pinging outloud all day. Anyone who might actually call me will just call my office phone anyway.

Which is my bigger issue, anyway. I sit in a corner office and we have paper thin walls. The woman that sits in the office next to me gets personal calls on her office phone all. day. long. I can hear every freaking word. It's usually her kids. Or her husband. Or kids' friends' parents. Or babysitter. I basically know everything her kids do all day long and their schedule, etc. It is so annoying. She should just be a stay at home mom with the amount of times she spends coordinating her kids' lives.

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Default  Posted: 12:53 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hmmm, I have mine out all the time but I have several medical apps that I use and show things to patients and residents. If I get a personal call I just mute the ringer and call people back later. And you hoo! Omaha Steaks: QUIT CALLING ME DAMN IT!

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OW: who cares (PhD)
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Default  Posted: 9:59 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

at my last company, there was so much steel beams in the building that most cell phone signals were blocked. That was until an antena was installed on our roof. We were close to a major highway and our building was 4 floors tall.

One time during a staff meeting in a conference room, a co-worker's phone starts rings. She left the room to answer the call. Who brings their cell phone to a staff meeting? We all just stared at our manager who ignored what just happended. She returns to the meeting, then about 5 minutes last, her phone rings again! She leaves the meeting again. We asked our manager to get control of "his" meeting but as usual, he ignored it.

We thought that our coworker brought her phone in case of some emergency and needed to be reachable. The "emergency" was some out of town family coming to visit.

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Default  Posted: 12:09 PM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We have a no cell phone policy at work. Cell phones are not allowed to be in anyone's pocket, even turned completely off, during work hours. They aren't supposed to be on even if left in the employee's locker because the locker location is considered a work area.

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Default  Posted: 1:11 AM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The way people are today, it's a real wonder how the world ever functioned without cell phones.

I could take or leave mine. It's a nice convenience, but I wouldn't 'die' if it was banned tomorrow.

My boss is awful - she talks to her 3 adult 'kids' like all day at work on the cell; even waving you off if they call.

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Default  Posted: 1:39 AM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We don't have a problem at all. We are encouraged to use our personal cell phones to get company email, so I will often email someone at lunch with a question and that person will respond while eating lunch. It's not a big deal.

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♀ 19772
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Default  Posted: 1:55 AM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My company - if you opt to allow people to call your cell, they will subsidize the monthly cost, but should you quit - they wipe the phone clean.

It's also more or less expected that you're available most of the time. Maybe not at midnight, but if someone emails you at 8pm - they expect an answer.

Lastly, nothing bothers me more than sitting in the break room on unpaid lunch when my boss comes in to 'talk shop'; I'd be in mid-bite and almost expected to rectify something.

My boss is a micro manager - what are you doing? Did you get that? I JUST (within 17 seconds) sent an email, did you see it? Are you working on that? What are you doing?

I've taken to telling her I'm on FB, online dating or something else. I am an adult. I know how to act at work, so fuck fucking off.

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♀ 6850
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Default  Posted: 10:34 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I view cell phones as an "electronic leash"! Whether personal or work phones they allow people to be contacted/tracked down at all times.
More and more I see our managers accepting calls/texts at home, when out of the office, or even on vacation. A lot of this time is not paid time. Yes they are "salaried", but there is a limit as to how many hours in a day that gives an employer a right to expect you to answer. (In my humble opinion)
I have made damn sure that my employer does NOT have my cell phone number. I have voice mail at home...if they call they can leave a message if I don't answer. I don't need them calling me whenever they bloody well feel like it.....

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