The time it takes is the time it takes. Spend some time in this place of sadness today, honor the anniversary and the loss of that dream, then tomorrow pick yourself up, dust yourself off and do something fun or interesting or challenging or physical.
You can talk to your SO about it, let him know what is going on, but try not to dwell to long on the "significance" of remembering and thinking about it...
and, gently here, how does one just "find" themselves "reading old emails from OW"...that is pretty passive way of explaining that...why were you looking for them, where are they stored? Maybe, rather than your history, those emails are the things that should be put
in a box, throw(n) in the basement, and never look(ed) at again.
I still have my evidence file, and I know when I look at it I can and do spend several hours in a funk...sometimes I want to feel that way, I guess...but placing them in an uneasy to access place makes reading the emails etc. a deliberate action...something I have to plan on doing. Maybe you could put yours somewhere difficult to access too...
[This message edited by better4me at 12:23 PM, September 10th (Tuesday)]