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User Topic: Chaps my hide
tired girl
♀ 28053
Member # 28053
Default  Posted: 3:16 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The mods and the guides spend a lot of their own time VOLUNTEERING here. It really bugs the shit out of me when one of them gets disrespected. Just saying. Thank you for the job all of you do. Wanted to let you guys know that without you and the time you volunteer, this site wouldn't be what it is.


Me45 Him 45 Hardlessons DS 25,23,20
D Day 1/18/10 his 3/8/2012 mine
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt

Posts: 5156 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: az
Deeply Scared
♀ 2
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 3:27 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks TG

When I saw that today, I was super pissed that anyone would talk to a volunteer like that. We have her back


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 198861 | Registered: May 2002
tired girl
♀ 28053
Member # 28053
Default  Posted: 3:28 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am thinking most of the people on this forum do DS.

Thank you for all you do.


Me45 Him 45 Hardlessons DS 25,23,20
D Day 1/18/10 his 3/8/2012 mine
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt

Posts: 5156 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: az
Tred
♂ 34086
Member # 34086
Default  Posted: 3:35 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

DS, Meta, mods, and guides, I want to apologize for that. I responded first to Meta in that thread, and had no intentions of the tone going in that direction. But since this site is about consequences, and owning your shit, I own that. I say that because I considered for a minute if it was disrespectful, and convinced myself it wasn't. When I saw where the tone was going, I was embarrassed. I use this site for a lot of support, and at times it's when I'm not at my best. I just wanted to say I'm sorry. I really appreciate the job you all do - and I might harass WH5 (aka Badass according to WAL), but I should have realized the time/place wasn't right. My bad.


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

Posts: 4091 | Registered: Dec 2011
Deeply Scared
♀ 2
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 3:40 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tred...I can't speak for Meta...but I feel confident you were not the culprit


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 198861 | Registered: May 2002
authenticnow
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Member # 16024
Default  Posted: 3:44 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks!

We work really hard to be fair and keep this site safe and supportive for everyone.

When one of the staff gets disrespected, the mama bear claws come out for all of us.

We all like to joke around. Who doesn't need comic relief? But, humor that is belittling and disrespectful is not tolerated, towards the members or the staff.


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


Posts: 38700 | Registered: Sep 2007
tired girl
♀ 28053
Member # 28053
Default  Posted: 3:45 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

But, humor that is belittling and disrespectful is not tolerated, towards the members or the staff.

Nor should it be.


Me45 Him 45 Hardlessons DS 25,23,20
D Day 1/18/10 his 3/8/2012 mine
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt

Posts: 5156 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: az
DeadMumWalking
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Member # 25341
Default  Posted: 3:59 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not sure what this is all about, but just wanted to chime in with thanks for all you do as admins, mods and guides. You give so much to this site, I am so sorry for any negativity that you endure on our behalf.

((((admins, mods, guides))))


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 25 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 30
Dday: Dec 2008
Limbo-ish, again (after multiple S) -- weighing my options

Posts: 2677 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
metamorphisis
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Default  Posted: 4:16 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you guys. I'm sorry it became such a big deal.
Seriously, thank you, I appreciate it.



“We don't see things as they are; we see them as we are.”... Anais Nin

Posts: 45299 | Registered: Sep 2006
tired girl
♀ 28053
Member # 28053
Default  Posted: 4:48 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Your welcome meta, you guys are the best


Me45 Him 45 Hardlessons DS 25,23,20
D Day 1/18/10 his 3/8/2012 mine
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt

Posts: 5156 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: az
jo2love
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Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 5:37 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you. We appreciate the support.

Posts: 36485 | Registered: Mar 2011
Skan
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Default  Posted: 7:03 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Smoochies to you! Platonic one's, of course.


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 5100 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
aesir
♂ 17210
Member # 17210
Default  Posted: 9:33 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just saw this thread, after catching up on the other one, was rather embarrassed by it all. Saw that there were already consequences in place by that time. Would have completely understood if the follow up response had ended with K'ThanxBye.

bear claws come out for all of us.

Mmmm bear claws.

Got enough to share? Now I'm hungry.

ETA:
On further reflection I feel I should point out that in no way am I trying to imply that any volunteers look like Pam, though I suspect a couple when provoked might be just as tough.

[This message edited by aesir at 9:42 PM, September 10th (Tuesday)]


Your mileage may vary... in accordance with the prophecy.

Do not back up. Severe tire damage.


Posts: 14924 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Winnipeg
Ascendant
♂ 38303
Member # 38303
Default  Posted: 11:59 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Agreed. I wanted to PM the offending member, but he's not able to receive PMs. It was definitely a "Really, guy?" -type of moment.


I have a competition in me.

Posts: 2262 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: City in the Midwest/Best In The Whole Wide World
aesir
♂ 17210
Member # 17210
Default  Posted: 12:12 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wanted to PM the offending member, but he's not able to receive PMs.

I may be wrong, but most often that is a result of consequences being applied.


Your mileage may vary... in accordance with the prophecy.

Do not back up. Severe tire damage.


Posts: 14924 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Winnipeg
tired girl
♀ 28053
Member # 28053
Default  Posted: 12:39 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I do not believe you are wrong aesir.

Have to say that it stunned me to see a mod treated that way.


Me45 Him 45 Hardlessons DS 25,23,20
D Day 1/18/10 his 3/8/2012 mine
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt

Posts: 5156 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: az
Hope2B
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Member # 40474
Default  Posted: 1:14 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I missed what happened too, but wanted to say THANK YOU for helping me. If not for this forum, I think I would be in a very dark place.


Me: early 60s
Him: 65 yrs old, LTA w/a pro$titute
Married since 1980, no children
DDay: Feb. 25, 2013
Trickle Truth Days: Sept 10, 11, 13, 15 (2013)
His affair--says it was only 8 times 1x/mo, then found out it was 7 YEARS 2-3x/mo or maybe ever 4x/mo

Posts: 363 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: out west/west coast U.S.A.
confused615
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Member # 30826
Default  Posted: 5:25 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I saw it..it was offensive.

Meta..and all the mods here do a wonderful job and should be treated with nothing but respect.



BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7916 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
Ascendant
♂ 38303
Member # 38303
Default  Posted: 7:35 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I may be wrong, but most often that is a result of consequences being applied
Ah. OK.


I have a competition in me.

Posts: 2262 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: City in the Midwest/Best In The Whole Wide World
Jrazz
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Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 10:37 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Have to say that it stunned me to see a mod treated that way.

Let alone admin.

Let alone the amazing person she is.


"If the path you walk leads back to yourself, you'll never get anywhere." - Master Oogway

Posts: 18350 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
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